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  • 09-08-2012 1:53pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I know all the details would help but it would take forever to put it up.

    Seeing this girl for a while, both mad about each other. She has 2 kids from a previous relationship. When she started seeing me she said to me she didn't want any more kids, now I hadn't planned on any either, not yet anyway!

    Last night she was watching something about babies on the telly and she asked me do I think ill ever ill want a baby. Pretty heavy question and I said I don't know, it would depend on lots of things. She said I hope you do, you would be a great dad. Then said anyway enough of baby talk.

    So I wasn't really sure what to think. Shes the only woman on the planet I would have even considered having a child with, but the fact she told me before she didn't want any more kids when we started seeing each other, had me wondering if she even sees a future for us? Its really after knocking me. I cant help but feel that now, we are just a temporary thing or something? & Im so shocked and scared I dont know what way to bring it back up.

    Like I got from that - I hope you have one, one day, but it wont be with me, because I already said I dont want any??

    WTF - Very confused and worried. Because if she doesnt see a future with us, I don't want to continue something thats not real.


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  • #2
    Herrick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 903 ✭✭✭Herrick


    I'm afraid this is one where you have no choice but to ask her straight out. I think it sounds like maybe she's thinking she might want one with you tbh. But you won't know until you ask.


  • #3
    Chicago Chick
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 104 ✭✭Chicago Chick


    Herrick wrote: »
    I'm afraid this is one where you have no choice but to ask her straight out. I think it sounds like maybe she's thinking she might want one with you tbh. But you won't know until you ask.

    Agree with all of the above. To me it read more like she was thinking she might want one with you and was casually bringing up the subject to gauge your reaction. There really is no other way to get around this and to know what she is thinking but to sit down and ask her. It doesn't have to be a big drama but children and the possibility of having them is a massive issue in a relationship if both partners are not one the one page. It is possible she has changed her mind, plenty of people don't but plenty do too.

    Best of luck with it all.


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