Housemates friends mother..

mkhall

Ive recently moved into a houseshare and at the moment its just me and one other girl, as we havent found someone for the third room. My housemate informed me that she would be having a lady stay this week in the spare room. Apparently its her friends mother and shes a bit stuck. I realise shes doing her friend a favor but I cant help thinking its going to be a bit awkward. My housemate has her own bathroom as well so this lady will obviously have to share mine. Im also off work this week and had planned on having friends/boyfriend over. Id feel like I would have to be on my best behaviour in front of her. My boyfriend doesnt want to come over until shes gone because he thinks it will be too awkward. I dont mind my housemate having guests over if theyre her close friends and shes here when they are. I can hardly tell her no, especially since I only moved in a month ago and shes been in the house for four years. Am I overreacting?

Rosy Posy

I thinks its just a case of attitude adjustment. You're thinking it will be weird because she is an older lady and a mother, right? But you are all adults, and its not like she's your friend's mother, like you know her in that context. She is moving into a house sharing situation so its not like she's going to be nosing around telling you to tidy your room. Treat her like any other housemate and try to suspend your ageism. You might end up getting on well, and if not its not like its a permanent arrangement.

tallaghtmick

Simple answer:Yes you are overreacting.

looksee

And she could always share your housemate's bathroom - you should suggest it.

Terri26

yes you are being awkward. You said yourself you were planning on having your boyfriend and friends over and you are only living there a few weeks. Your housemate did teh right thing and told you she is having a guest over for a week. Don't know why your boyfriend won't call over saying it will be awkward. Is this your first time living on your own/houseshare. Did your boyfriend worry that your housemate would worry/find it awkward when he was over. Much more awkward with a couple staying than someone in the spare room.
And I disagree asking if this woman can share your housemates bathroom as I assume it is ensuite as you called it her bathroom. If you have a bathroom for two bedrooms it is communal with you having predominant use if there is nobody in the third bedroom yet.

AnonoBoy

I doubt the woman will be sitting around the house judging you.

She's presumably staying there because she's in town on business or visiting family or something.

Relax. Sometimes grownups in house-shares have to put up with a small bit of inconvenience. That's the way it works.