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Difficulty in forming friendships/relationships

  • 03-08-2012 10:10pm
    #1
    Revand
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13 ✭


    Dont know where else to turn.. so chancing my arm for some advice :( Well I find it difficult to form relationships/ friendships with people.. i'm at a loss. As i want to have friends, but I tend to find myself alone alot of the time.

    I am a quiet individual. I do participate in a sport that does get me mixing with others. I find it awkward in opening up about myself..in saying that.. if conversations arise about being out etc.. I find myself lying and saying that yes i was out.. when really i stayed at home alone. having no one to contact with anyone.. basically im looking to break free.. and make some friends. to scared to admit this as it may seem strange.

    How do I approach the subject without sounding odd? that i would like to become friends with some of these people that goes beyond only meeting at the sport event. or at work.. :confused:Is there some secret to forming friendships that im missing..


Comments

  • #2
    Roisy7
    Closed Accounts Posts: 548 ✭✭✭Roisy7


    There's a tendency in Irish society, for all our friendliness, to leave people to their own devices with their own friends.

    You need to stop lying to your teammates. If they think you're out enjoying yourself with other people then they are never going to invite you anywhere... They'll just think "Oh sure X is off with his mates"...

    Why not suggest going for a few drinks as a club or whatever? If it's GAA there's surely a social which you can go to?

    It's never easy to make friends, but I would advise you that quality is better than quantity. I probably have four or five friends (that's being generous) that I could call at 4am, but that is way more important than having 20 friends who se support is superficial.

    Make the move with your teammates, think about other clubs you can join, etc, and always be smiling and obliging (but not a doormat) to people, keep the bright side out and people will naturally like you!


  • #3
    Mighty_Mouse
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,882 ✭✭✭Mighty_Mouse


    No lies.
    People can smell bull****.
    Free yourself from preceptions you believe people may have of you.
    The reality is most people will only ever get to know a little part of you.
    Show them the good part which is free of anxiety and worries.
    Relax and be confident in yourself, who you are, your own interests.
    Its ok to be you no matter who that is.


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