More than one wedding in the Hotel

Senna

Just wondering what peoples views are on this, would/have you got married in a Hotel that holds more than one wedding per day?
Would that put you off booking the hotel, or would you mind?

Gatica

personally I'd mind. Wouldn't like to have a run in with another bride :P
It may be a selfish thing, but having things done your way on your wedding day is normally enough I think and it would be more difficult to do that if there's two brides to please!

Moonbeam

I would hate it unless it was some massive hotel.
It would be so hard for a hotel to get everything right for 2 wedding parties and I dunno how they could manage the different menus and attention to details.

Miaireland

I wouldn't do it either. My first cousin and her husband had theirs in a hotel with another wedding. My cousin and her husband had a free bar and they had a huge problem with guests from the other party trying to sneek in for free drinks.

abrr1000

I'm getting married in a hotel where they will possibly have other weddings on - they have 3 different rooms within the hotel and assign a separate lot of serving and catering staff to each function. There is a manager assigned to each wedding also so its not like there is 1 manager running around between 2 weddings, and they are in separate areas which means guests wouldnt be mixing.
Personally I don't mind at all - it meant we were able to get great prices on our package - the hotel is not relying on the one wedding to make their money, and they seem very efficient and knowledgeable.
Even the rooms allocated to our wedding are all together and close to our function room.
Also it wouldnt bother me if I ran into another bride - I'd be happy for them we could all get a photo taken together and have something to laugh about the next day.
Of course my dress would be nicer than hers :P

Raphael

I was very against the idea while venue hunting, but the venue we went with (Stillorgan Park Hotel) do it but with 2 kitchens, 2 sets of staff headed by 2 managers, 2 bars, 2 entrances to the hotel, 2 lobbies. Basically, there is nothing but the roof that the two weddings have in common, so there's very limited chance of anything getting mixed up.

I was still glad they didn't have another wedding there on the day, mind.

alwaysadub

I wouldn't mind if if the two wedding parties were kept totally separate and there were two lots of people looking after them.

I heard of a hotel that did two weddings a day, but there was only one area to take photos, so one bridal party was left waiting and were literally standing off to the side while the other used the gardens for the photos. Wouldn't fancy that myself.

lazygal

I'd have hated this. We had a free bar, I never thought of people sneaking in to stock up, how cheeky! I think a wedding is such a special day, I wouldn't have wanted to share it. I remember being at a wedding in the Red Cow Hotel, it was a factory line affair because there were two other weddings there on the same day. Really showed in the service, food and overall feel of the day. I think the couple only booked it because it was so cheap, but I would have been pretty underwhelmed if it was my wedding.

dr ro

How does the residents bar work. Surely there would be mingling there. A friend of mine had a shared wedding years ago and the champagne they brought was given to the other wedding by mistake, the hotel had to replace with dom perignon. Score!

abrr1000

Good point about the free bar I would have never thought of that. Would it be possible to use some sort of voucher system to prevent that I wonder?
That would really bother me...

angeldelight

No I would definitely not have booked our wedding anywhere where this was a possibility. It's the one day of my life where I don't want to play second fiddle to anyone or have to settle for second best. It may not have happened but it certainly wasn't a chance I was willing to take. Also I quite like going to a wedding and getting chatting to people in the loo or whatever that I don't know but can presume we're at the same event as we're both dressed up for a wedding!

hoodwinked

honestly?

i worked in a hotel where they had three function rooms,


some nights we could have had 3 weddings, or if that time of year a two weddings and a debs..etc


needless to say managers had their hands full with gatecrashers and all the problems you'd expect from 3 events running at the same time,

not to mention as accommodation staff, i knew the rooms inside out, usually the bride and groom would get the main suite (huge gorgeous rooms - kitchenette, frontroom/dining room, bedroom, bathroom with two sinks, two toilets bath and shower) where if you were the bride of a smaller wedding you would get the next (small but still gorgeous - bedroom, bathroom with shower & bath one sink one toilet) room.

either way unless you are filling their biggest room you would tend to inadvertently get a second choice for anything the hotel cannot duplicate.


thats why when we got married it was in a hotel with one function room ( was picked due to location really but this sealed the deal for me)

and i noticed throughout the day (and the next) i was referred to by staff who i hadnt met previously (who didn't realise i was in ear shot) as "thursdays bride" :pac:

much better than "thursdays bride - a/b"

flikflak

It wouldnt be for me but then again I dont want a hotel venue as even the thought of random people from the hotel being around my wedding would annoy me!

The thought of another wedding party at the same venue would not be my idea of a great day.

clint_silver

I dont think the food/service is the worst of it, I attended a double wedding thing last year where the band were awful in room 1 and great in room 2, there was some, how could you put it, leakage from room 1.

Most times if theres a stray couple or so standing in the back you wouldnt mind or if they were polite enough to say they were guests of the hotel would they mind if they came in, but there was upwards of 20 leaked in this particular night.

why should it be up to the B&G to be doing door? manager/security should be on.

gimmick

I was at an MMA fight night in Cork a few months ago, and there was a wedding downstairs from it. I cannot imagine the weddings people were happy, as MMA, in geberal, has a "certain" crowd following it.

But thats the risk you run going to a big hotel.

sandraryan100

Have to say, this is a key consideration for me. I'd hate the thought of their being another wedding in the smae venue- we're going for a small venue perfect for our 120. I'd be worried what the other group/wedding party might be like ot bumping into another bride in the loos! Or the idea of other guests coming in for a goo ( or vice versa!).......... I'd avoid- its is your special day and theres something very unspecial about another bride and groom being there!!:)

abrr1000

I don't agree - how exactly does it take away any "specialness"?
And guests sneaking out to another wedding because they have a better band? That would show that you invited people who are not your real friends and just came for the sake of it. I would hate to think anyone who I invite would prefer to be anywhere else on the evening.
Once I can't see the other wedding going on and don't have any connection to it (the rooms are not right beside each other) then I don't really see the problem. There is a separate lot of staff and a separate manager assigned to each wedding - if they are experienced in catering to weddings on a regular basis it should be just another day's work for them.

Minier81

abrr1000 wrote: »

Once I can't see the other wedding going on and don't have any connection to it (the rooms are not right beside each other) then I don't really see the problem. There is a separate lot of staff and a separate manager assigned to each wedding - if they are experienced in catering to weddings on a regular basis it should be just another day's work for them.

I agree, once it is a venue where the rooms are completely separate. Alot of hotels runnign two per day have separate gardens for photos, separate kitchens, separate function rooms and bridal suites far apart. I would not consider soemwhere where it was simply two functions rooms side by side.

Sea Filly

As long the staff weren't stretched between the two, I wouldn't mind at all. There should be staff for each one separately.

Sea Filly

lazygal wrote: »

I'd have hated this. We had a free bar, I never thought of people sneaking in to stock up, how cheeky! I think a wedding is such a special day, I wouldn't have wanted to share it. I remember being at a wedding in the Red Cow Hotel, it was a factory line affair because there were two other weddings there on the same day. Really showed in the service, food and overall feel of the day. I think the couple only booked it because it was so cheap, but I would have been pretty underwhelmed if it was my wedding.

In fairness, it doesn't have to be a cheap reception or there be multiple weddings to have a production-line feel. Weddings are so samey in this country that once you've been to a few, the production line feeling becomes a familiar one.

Sea Filly

flikflak wrote: »

It wouldnt be for me but then again I dont want a hotel venue as even the thought of random people from the hotel being around my wedding would annoy me!

Why? They probably wouldn't care less, they'd have their own things going on.

flikflak

Sea Filly wrote: »

Why? They probably wouldn't care less, they'd have their own things going on.

Because I want a private wedding with my own wedding party as the only people on site. I cant stand the thought of people wandering around while my wedding was on. At nearly every wedding I have been to in faceless, production line style hotels here there have been people wandering in and and around where the wedding party are sometimes people wandering by in robes while they are coming and going from the lesuire facilities.

Its something I would never consider.

Senna

flikflak wrote: »

Because I want a private wedding with my own wedding party as the only people on site. I cant stand the thought of people wandering around while my wedding was on. At nearly every wedding I have been to in faceless, production line style hotels here there have been people wandering in and and around where the wedding party are sometimes people wandering by in robes while they are coming and going from the lesuire facilities.

Its something I would never consider.

The problem is you will pay a premium for having a closed venue, most B&G's wont notice anyone else and so paying for the luxury of a private venue is an unnecessary expense.
You could always get a venue with a separate entrance for the wedding area, thus solving the problem without the expense.