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Am I too relaxed and trusting?

  • 28-07-2012 5:53pm
    #1
    brownstone
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 75 ✭✭


    I don't believe in controlling what my boyfriend does or what he doesn't do. I mean it's his life, we're only given one chance. If he wants to do something, I just go along with it. We've a very close relationship. However, we live about 2 hours give or take away from each other, and I don't drive. So, I guess I never really could tell him what to do because he could do it anyway and I wouldn't know. We both work. He's a silage contractor- his hours aren't regular. I work in a resturant but my hours are not constant. We can never plan anything, only spur of the moment. It doesn't bother me as much as it used to, I guess I got used to it. But then again, am I too relaxed and trusting? I'd like someone elses opinion...


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  • #2
    Katgurl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,145 ✭✭✭Katgurl


    No way. If you're not genuinely upset about something why should you try & force yourself to be? It sounds like you're happy & contented in this relationship - amongst my friends the happiest ones that stand the test of time tend to be the couples that allow each other lots of space.

    Plus that lack of insecurity / needines / jealousy is very attractive in a partner. You don't say what ages you both are but if you stay together you have plenty of time in the future to be living in each other's pockets.


  • #3
    brownstone
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 75 ✭✭brownstone


    Thank you for your opinion. Yes, I feel that there is nothing wrong so why should I get upset.. :) Friends say I'm too relaxed and trusting at times but I really think he's genunie and his actions have never been in question :) Thanks :)


  • #4
    Piliger
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,741 ✭✭✭Piliger


    brownstone wrote: »
    Thank you for your opinion. Yes, I feel that there is nothing wrong so why should I get upset.. :) Friends say I'm too relaxed and trusting at times but I really think he's genunie and his actions have never been in question :) Thanks :)

    If we don't trust in our partner then we don't belong together. Even if there were to be questions, we must trust until we know differently. Sadly some friends have had bad experiences and feel they have to spread the misery to lessen their own load. It's selfish and destructive and you need to tell them to stop.


  • #5
    Herrick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 903 ✭✭✭Herrick


    Well I can say if he's a silage contractor then for definite during the summer he will be swamped, most can go for most of the summer with only time for a few hours sleep while the cutting is on.

    Whats he like for meeting up from say September to May? Cause I don't reckon a silage contractor has hectic hours in that time frame.


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