Long Distance Relationships?

brownstone

Hey all, I'm looking for some advice. I've been with this guy for a few months now. At the moment we live about an hour apart. However, I'm moving in September, we'll be roughly 3-4 hours apart. We both have work commitments but manage to make it work despite this. He works irregular hours, I find this hard but I guess I have gotten used to it over time. There is days when I'm lucky to even hear from him. I don't know whether he is just so busy that he can't even call or text, or is it that he's not really bothered? I know he cares about me, and I really care about him too. We've made it work so far but lately its been getting me down. We spent a wonderful 4 days together last week, the most time we've ever spent together. When we parted our ways, I felt deflated once again. He always says we part ways only to see each other again. But I just wonder, are we naive to think it will work or am I tempting faith questioning a man who loves me? Any advice would be appreciated..

rainbow kirby

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LostGirly

brownstone wrote: »

Hey all, I'm looking for some advice. I've been with this guy for a few months now. At the moment we live about an hour apart. However, I'm moving in September, we'll be roughly 3-4 hours apart. We both have work commitments but manage to make it work despite this. He works irregular hours, I find this hard but I guess I have gotten used to it over time. There is days when I'm lucky to even hear from him. I don't know whether he is just so busy that he can't even call or text, or is it that he's not really bothered? I know he cares about me, and I really care about him too. We've made it work so far but lately its been getting me down. We spent a wonderful 4 days together last week, the most time we've ever spent together. When we parted our ways, I felt deflated once again. He always says we part ways only to see each other again. But I just wonder, are we naive to think it will work or am I tempting faith questioning a man who loves me? Any advice would be appreciated..

It may seem like an impossible feat right now but believe me it's not! My boy lives in a different country to me and we've made it work! Luckily he gets home often enough! In a couple of months we'll be swapping countries, he's coming home and I'm moving away, I won't be able to come home that often, but with a bit of hard work, trust and a few sacrifices we'll figure it out! You're not being naive by thinking it will work, it will if you want it to! Where there's a will there's a way! I truly believe that!!

W.Shakes-Beer

Believe me OP, your situation is very workable. A few hours apart is nothing if you're willing to make an effort to make it work.

My own relationship has recently gone long distance, she is on the other side of the world now and I won't see her for another 3 months. We're making it work, so it is do-able.

brownstone

Thank you all for the advice! We're both very happy and willing to make the effort so I think it should work. Both your situations seem a lot tougher, I feel a little silly. Well done to both of you

TelePaul

brownstone wrote: »

Hey all, I'm looking for some advice. I've been with this guy for a few months now. At the moment we live about an hour apart. However, I'm moving in September, we'll be roughly 3-4 hours apart. We both have work commitments but manage to make it work despite this. He works irregular hours, I find this hard but I guess I have gotten used to it over time. There is days when I'm lucky to even hear from him. I don't know whether he is just so busy that he can't even call or text, or is it that he's not really bothered? I know he cares about me, and I really care about him too. We've made it work so far but lately its been getting me down. We spent a wonderful 4 days together last week, the most time we've ever spent together. When we parted our ways, I felt deflated once again. He always says we part ways only to see each other again. But I just wonder, are we naive to think it will work or am I tempting faith questioning a man who loves me? Any advice would be appreciated..

You feel completely deflated when he goes? Those relationships are the ones worth holding on to!

brownstone

TelePaul wrote: »

You feel completely deflated when he goes? Those relationships are the ones worth holding on to!

Really? Do you think so? I wonder am I too needy and is that why I feel like that...

Princess Peach

My boyfriend lives across the world too, haven't seen him in nearly 7 months, but things are great between us.

I think the main thing is contact. There hasn't been a single day in our whole relationship we haven't spoken to each other. Before I moved away we lived in different counties in Ireland so didn't see each other all the time then either. We text back and forth all day, and Skype as often as we can. Makes it much easier and we feel much closer as we know whats going on with each other.

Maybe you should talk to him that you would like to her from him more often? It is hard to not see each other so often, so talking is so important.