Told I look similar to someone who is not considered good looking.

Healthis

I was out in a pub on Saturday night and I was approached by two random strangers telling me I looked like their nephew who lives locally. I checked the guy out on facebbok and there is a resemblence. Same face shape, eyes, nose, hair etc. However he isin't what I would call a good looking chap. Now I would be considered good looking, and have being told by dozens of people and get alot of interest from women and men. I really don't like being compared to this guy, he is also regularly in trouble with the law and has a bad reputation, doesn't bother working and has no interest in doing so, stays in bed most of the day etc. I have shown his picture to friends of mine and most agree there is a similarity. Has anybody who is considered good looking ever being compared to a plain not so nice looking person? I'm not trying to sound shallow and vain, please excuse that id it comes across that way.

qwertytlk

Healthis wrote: »

I was out in a pub on Saturday night and I was approached by two random strangers telling me I looked like their nephew who lives locally. I checked the guy out on facebbok and there is a resemblence. Same face shape, eyes, nose, hair etc. However he isin't what I would call a good looking chap. Now I would be considered good looking, and have being told by dozens of people and get alot of interest from women and men. I really don't like being compared to this guy, he is also regularly in trouble with the law and has a bad reputation, doesn't bother working and has no interest in doing so, stays in bed most of the day etc. I have shown his picture to friends of mine and most agree there is a similarity. Has anybody who is considered good looking ever being compared to a plain not so nice looking person? I'm not trying to sound shallow and vain, please excuse that id it comes across that way.

Hey,
Try not to let it annoy u. He is a different person to you so even if there is a resemblance it doesn't mean you actually look like him. You are your own person with a unique personality and looks so don't get too hung up on this.

A few years ago when girls started back- combing their hair, I did it a few times. Nothing OTT but I remember a few people said to me I looked like amy winehouse! I was devastated but when I thought about it, it was actually only the hair they were referring to! Although mine was no where near the scale hers was!!
Anyway I know how u feel as that really Pissed me off but don't let this annoy you ! It's irrelevant anyway, they were strangers who said it and if you hadn't mentioned it to ur friends then it probably never would have come up again!

Taltos

OP - welcome to PI.
Can you please clarify how this is a personal issue for you? If this is not a personal issue we shall proceed and close this thread.
PI's purpose is to get advice on personal issues and is not a discussion forum.

Thanks
Taltos

ongarboy

Healthis wrote: »

I was out in a pub on Saturday night and I was approached by two random strangers telling me I looked like their nephew who lives locally. I checked the guy out on facebbok and there is a resemblence. Same face shape, eyes, nose, hair etc. However he isin't what I would call a good looking chap. Now I would be considered good looking, and have being told by dozens of people and get alot of interest from women and men. I really don't like being compared to this guy, he is also regularly in trouble with the law and has a bad reputation, doesn't bother working and has no interest in doing so, stays in bed most of the day etc. I have shown his picture to friends of mine and most agree there is a similarity. Has anybody who is considered good looking ever being compared to a plain not so nice looking person? I'm not trying to sound shallow and vain, please excuse that id it comes across that way.

Just because you don't think this "dead ringer" is good looking doesn't mean that others also think he is ugly so don't assume it means you are not good looking. Also, what has that person's personality/lifestyle etc got to do with your looks?

If you are satisfied that you are good looking and "dozens" of others have told you the same, why are you hung up on this resemblance? I think your issue here is your insecurity about your looks rather than whether you are actually good looking or not. Maybe focus on some confidence/self esteem building techniques to help you overcome this insecurity. People with good self esteem would not have this issue.

Healthis

Taltos wrote: »

OP - welcome to PI.
Can you please clarify how this is a personal issue for you? If this is not a personal issue we shall proceed and close this thread.
PI's purpose is to get advice on personal issues and is not a discussion forum.

Thanks
Taltos

This is a personal issue. I am gobsmacked that you failed to notice that. I simply take displeasure to being compared to this other person, I am looking for advice on how to deal with it.

ananas

You're thinking waaay too much about it. I always get told that I look like people but then once people know you, they won't associate you with looking like someone else. Seriously, in the greater realm of things this is minor and although it's upsetting you, you shouldn't worry about it. Hell, I was once told I look like that young girl off Eastenders by a complete stranger- see link :http://www.google.ie/imgres?hl=en&biw=1228&bih=771&tbm=isch&tbnid=-vwCrfVgcKR8lM:&imgrefurl=http://www.guardian.co.uk/education/mortarboard/2008/sep/02/highereducation.cambridgeuniversity&docid=NKFKBkVtUTdr_M&imgurl=http://static.guim.co.uk/sys-images/Guardian/Pix/pictures/2008/09/02/libb2.jpg&w=460&h=276&ei=TggQUNruB42r0AW_moGIDA&zoom=1&iact=hc&vpx=103&vpy=193&dur=12&hovh=174&hovw=289&tx=139&ty=109&sig=100710588139005277126&page=1&tbnh=132&tbnw=182&start=0&ndsp=26&ved=1t:429,r:0,s:0,i:81

Water off a ducks back, I know I'm a total ride

Lorna123

Healthis wrote: »

I was out in a pub on Saturday night and I was approached by two random strangers telling me I looked like their nephew who lives locally. I checked the guy out on facebbok and there is a resemblence. Same face shape, eyes, nose, hair etc. However he isin't what I would call a good looking chap. Now I would be considered good looking, and have being told by dozens of people and get alot of interest from women and men. I really don't like being compared to this guy, he is also regularly in trouble with the law and has a bad reputation, doesn't bother working and has no interest in doing so, stays in bed most of the day etc. I have shown his picture to friends of mine and most agree there is a similarity. Has anybody who is considered good looking ever being compared to a plain not so nice looking person? I'm not trying to sound shallow and vain, please excuse that id it comes across that way.

My sister is always telling me that i am a ringer for a particular aunt we have and honest to God this aunt is so ugly. I was never considered ugly in fact quite the opposite and have had lots of people telling me I am good looking. I also feel myself that I am much better looking than this aunt. Now I take after my father and this aunt is my father's sister, so there might be some resemblance but I am way more glamorous. I know this myself. It irratates me to be compared with this aunt by my sister and sometimes I feel she gloats telling me this, but guess what there would be a resemblance, maybe a look to the eyes, nose, but I know that I am the better looking, however, my sister does not add that bit. So you know yourself how you compare to this man and you know oftentimes people love to get at you and bring you down a peg or two and I just think that this is one of those occasions. :D

stargazer 68

OP you are WAAAYYY overthinking this!
My brother says I remind him of Sharon Corr - Happy face
One of the girls in work say I remind her of Jorja Fox (CSI) - not so happy face!

Different strokes to different folks.

blatantrereg

I looked like a guy who was shorter, narrower, less popular with girls in college. The similarity was enough that one lecturer confused us a few times as far as I remember. Never bothered me in the slightest. If anything I felt vaguely positive about it, for no reason really.

Then again I thought he was a nice guy. I might well be bothered if people thought I looked like a scumbag. I might look at trying to change what impression I put across of myself if I seemed to remind people of a scumbag.

edit: Actually I think I get it. The similarity with the guy I mentioned caused me to identify with him. For me that was ok because I had a good opinion of him. For you it wrecks your head because you have a bad opinion of the guy you mentioned.

I wouldn't focus so much on the comparison looks-wise when if/when you talk about this in general. It would make you come across a bit vain. If you're better looking than him people will see that for themselves.

mikemac1

Overthinking it OP and even if you don't think this person is good looking maybe others well

See below

Dovies wrote: »

One of the girls in work say I remind her of Jorja Fox (CSI) - not so happy face!

She's gorgeous!!

stargazer 68

mikemac1 wrote: »

Overthinking it OP and even if you don't think this person is good looking maybe others well

See below





She's gorgeous!!

Lol - there ya go. Each to their own!

Neyite

OP, if you have the same shape face, eyes, nose, hair etc as someone then why not grow facial hair and change your hairstyle so you dont look as alike?

Someone once told me I was the spitting image of Martin Sheen.

Seriously though, OP, you just have to laugh these things off and not take it as seriously as you do.

Duckjob

ongarboy wrote: »

Just because you don't think this "dead ringer" is good looking doesn't mean that others also think he is ugly so don't assume it means you are not good looking.

Exactly.

Stop getting hung up on the concept of being "considered good looking" or not. Looks are entirely subjective. I have a female friend that thinks Brad Pitt looks like a monkey.

daisybelle2008

Healthis wrote: »

This is a personal issue. I am gobsmacked that you failed to notice that. I simply take displeasure to being compared to this other person, I am looking for advice on how to deal with it.

As issues go lucky for you it is so minor that it is hard to detect why you would be taking it so personally.
You yourself said there is a resemblance so not sure why you are so go smacked when you see the similarity yourself. Whether he is a scumbag or not has nothing to do with it, so there is no need to be insisting on making that part of the issue.
Stop focusing on it and keep busy with something more entertaining and fun.
This is only as much of a deal as you make it.

Zoria

Healthis wrote: »

I was out in a pub on Saturday night and I was approached by two random strangers telling me I looked like their nephew who lives locally. I checked the guy out on facebbok and there is a resemblence. Same face shape, eyes, nose, hair etc. However he isin't what I would call a good looking chap. Now I would be considered good looking, and have being told by dozens of people and get alot of interest from women and men. I really don't like being compared to this guy, he is also regularly in trouble with the law and has a bad reputation, doesn't bother working and has no interest in doing so, stays in bed most of the day etc. I have shown his picture to friends of mine and most agree there is a similarity. Has anybody who is considered good looking ever being compared to a plain not so nice looking person? I'm not trying to sound shallow and vain, please excuse that id it comes across that way.

Are you sure there isn't a little of this involved? I'm not sure why this bothers you so much. So what if there are similarities in terms of face shape or whatever, it doesn't mean that they meant you looked like identical twins. Way too much over thinking on this one.

runswithascript

Healthis wrote: »

I'm not trying to sound shallow and vain, please excuse that id it comes across that way.

Too late Casanova.

Taltos

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damselnat

As a teenager I once got compared to Michael Jackson. Being a teenager I was devastated, did everything I could to change my "look". I was still skinny pale, with a revulsion for fake tan, and used to get teased about it, but I just reached a point where I went fcuk it, I'm not going to please anyone but myself. It's a state of mind. If other people fancy you, you're not ugly. You'll be a lot more attractive if you just relax and remember you've pulled before, you're clearly not a monster. Just enjoy yourself, and everyone will see the best side!
Incidentally, as I got older I've been compared to Katy Perry and Dita Von Teese, much better than Michael Jackson...still dark and pale and dress a little weird, but also probably as much a reflection of the person who says it. I think you would be best to just shrug it off. There's probably a similarity, but it's unlikely you're twins!