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boyfriend cheated on me with prostitutes

  • 20-07-2012 3:41pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi guys im 21 only, my ex is 20 i used to live in uk with him for a year . we broke up few weeks ago as he told me he slept with his ex at the start of our relationship i forgave him due to bad times in his life then lately he just told me he used to visit brothels while we were living together in the uk i feel so sick and disgusted . Am I unworthy of love or anyone caring about me ? I did everything for this guy stayed through with him thick and thin when he was in mental hospitals i stayed in hostels just to be there for him. I hate myself for letting this happen to me ,

    Im attractive I have been told so I don't understand why someone our age would use them I really feel so bad with myself I don't know how i will ever trust someone again. I know for good I will never talk to this creep again I just need advice on the situation to make me feel better . the last 3 years have been a sham


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  • #2
    P. Breathnach
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,089 ✭✭✭✭P. Breathnach


    Let's see: you took on a guy with a history of "bad times in his life" and who needed to spend time in mental hospitals; he betrayed you. And you now wonder if you are to blame?

    It looks to me as if you tried hard for him, and he didn't deserve it.

    Most people are decent and honourable, and you obviously thought he was like most people. Now you know he wasn't. Don't now start thinking that most people are like him.

    You have learned a painful but valuable lesson: there are bad characters in our world. You have to learn how to spot them. Don't give up on being able to trust people again, but take a good hard look before you give that trust.


  • #3
    snafuk35
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 833 ✭✭✭snafuk35


    issomethingwrongwithme wrote: »
    Hi guys im 21 only, my ex is 20 i used to live in uk with him for a year . we broke up few weeks ago as he told me he slept with his ex at the start of our relationship i forgave him due to bad times in his life then lately he just told me he used to visit brothels while we were living together in the uk i feel so sick and disgusted . Am I unworthy of love or anyone caring about me ? I did everything for this guy stayed through with him thick and thin when he was in mental hospitals i stayed in hostels just to be there for him. I hate myself for letting this happen to me ,

    Im attractive I have been told so I don't understand why someone our age would use them I really feel so bad with myself I don't know how i will ever trust someone again. I know for good I will never talk to this creep again I just need advice on the situation to make me feel better . the last 3 years have been a sham

    You got taken in not because you are unworthy of love but because your nature is to be decent and kind and supportive.
    Unfortunately in this world are predatorial people who take advantage of peoples' kind natures.
    Thankfully they are a minority and it is a fact that most people are actually decent and kind.
    So once you put this creep behind you, if you refuse to be cynical, refuse to start looking at the world as a horrible place and refuse to abandon your ideals, you will find people like you who are loyal and stick by people they love and care about.
    You were just unlucky and you got a bad hand.
    Put your bad experience down to just bad luck that you met a user.


  • #4
    Lorna123
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,116 ✭✭✭Lorna123


    issomethingwrongwithme wrote: »
    Hi guys im 21 only, my ex is 20 i used to live in uk with him for a year . we broke up few weeks ago as he told me he slept with his ex at the start of our relationship i forgave him due to bad times in his life then lately he just told me he used to visit brothels while we were living together in the uk i feel so sick and disgusted . Am I unworthy of love or anyone caring about me ? I did everything for this guy stayed through with him thick and thin when he was in mental hospitals i stayed in hostels just to be there for him. I hate myself for letting this happen to me ,

    Im attractive I have been told so I don't understand why someone our age would use them I really feel so bad with myself I don't know how i will ever trust someone again. I know for good I will never talk to this creep again I just need advice on the situation to make me feel better . the last 3 years have been a sham

    Concentrate on how lucky you are that you can walk away from this man. You are not tied to him in any way. Count your blessings. You are a loving and kind person. This man is not for you, he doesn't recognise decency or know the meaning of the word.


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