Have I blow it or just paranoid?

LegacyUser

Ok, old enough to know better at this stage, and this is probably something really trivial to some people, but here goes....

Recently went on a date with someone who I have admired from afar for a few years, we would have crossed paths occasionally over the years and due to circumstances that was the way it panned out. Out of the blue this person made contact, passed on a number and we arranged to meet up. No idea how it went. I think it went ok, but I was so gobsmacked that it was actually happening, I was too serious I think. Got a peck on the lips goodnight, but haven't really heard anything since. I don't know if the peck was this person being polite, or if it was a green light to round 2

This person would be how I would have described to someone if they asked me what I looked for in someone, and it when it was presented to me, I think I blew it. I feel like Fernando Torres in front of an open goal and hoofing it over the bar...

I am trying to be vague here, as if that person somehow read this, I'd surely be doomed..

dellas1979

What do you think you did that blew it? And also, how long ago did this happen/last contact. What do you mean by you were too "serious"? You are going to have to provide a few more details I think.

LegacyUser

It was earlier this week. Maybe I am just being paranoid. But I don't think I was fully myself. It just feels like it's like a job interview and I bottled it....
By serious I dunno, maybe I came across as too shy, which is not good....

Taltos

OP - only one way to know for sure - get in touch and see if she will go out on another date with you. You could be lucky but unless you try you are always going to be wondering.

Mighty_Mouse

Ask her out this weekend. Show some interest?

You need to learn to relax.
You don't have to "appear" to be anything.Just be yourself.
Treat it as if you are meeting up with your mates or your sister. Talk exactly the same, the same topics, the same jokes. When she talks, listen, don't interrupt....and yer golden.

LegacyUser

sent a text yesterday but no reply yet. I reckon I may have done a Torres in front of an open goal.......
I reckon the kiss goodnight was just her signing off and being polite

msg11

blownit wrote: »

sent a text yesterday but no reply yet. I reckon I may have done a Torres in front of an open goal.......
I reckon the kiss goodnight was just her signing off and being polite

My advise, if she has not wrote back. Do nothing, don't read into, don't think what could have been. Just move on take it in experience, carry on this path you'll lose yourself.

You gave it a go, she's maybe not into it. Don't be negative, open goals and all sorts. Relationships and meeting potential partners is more complicated than a game of football!

Ickle Magoo

blownit wrote: »

sent a text yesterday but no reply yet. I reckon I may have done a Torres in front of an open goal.......
I reckon the kiss goodnight was just her signing off and being polite

Give it time - she might be waiting to answer or just busy...I wouldn't contact again tho, to continue with the footballing analogies; the balls in her half now, it's up to her what she does with it.

All the best.

dannyc31

it probably is'nt gonna happen man, from my experience when are girl likes you she cant really avoid texting back pretty soon. but as someone said above ask her out again and see if she agrees, you might be lucky.

if not, i wouldnt dwell on it as the saying goes "theres plenty more fish in the sea".

just try to be yourself in future dates, just relax and enjoy them.

best of luck

LegacyUser

so, got a reply and I texted back, and asked if they would be interested in meeting again, and got the green light.
It's like a Mexican Standoff......... I reckon I may be clutching at straws and if the next one doesn't go well, finito!! Stops have to be pulled out....

Taltos

As your initial question has been addressed I am closing this thread OP. Glad it worked out and all the best on your 2nd date.

Taltos