basically I mean nothing to her

soul_jd

ok to be perfectly honest, i think im being taken for granted now, i dont know what to make of this situation.

me and girlfriend have been fighting for a while, but recently things have been getting alot better and weve been alot better in the last few days than weve ever been.
but last night i was crashin at hers, and she had to go do a job for her mum in her mums school.

so i headed off home and she told me she'd call me later, kissed me goodbye etc, so i went home and waited around for her, kept myself busy etc. like 3 hours later still no call from her, so i txt her anyway, and another hour later she finally txt back sayin ya im at a friends house ttyl. friends who btw, stole from her, took her for granted, left her crying every night, used her. and i had to be the one to pick up the pieces every time, listening to how much she hates them,
then today she totally ditched me, didnt even bother saying im here, wont be in later, sorry for not lettin ya know, or anything like that, then shes at their house, completely after forgetting me, like as if she dosnt care about me, txts all short ( out of the 1 message i got).
i dont even mind that shes there but shes even bother to contact me to let me know she wont be around after she keeping me waiting for almost five hours. and me being the one then to pick up the pieces after their mess listening to how much she hates them.. etc... its just ridiculously annoying!!

maybe im just thinking too much into this, but its kinda unfair to be honest, that she left me around waiting especially when we had plans to go out for dinner.

but if you guys wouldnt mind, some feedback or suggestions on how to deal with this would be very much appreciated.

thanks guys.

Foggy.nelson

You are been takin for granted, I'd nip it in the bud, she might change if she realises that she can't take you for granted

chinesedoll

It is very inconsiderate of her, and having been in your position in the past, I would say sit her down and tell her, somewhere quiet where you can have a proper conversation. The more you give someone, the more they take whether they mean to or not. Maybe write down a list of what is happening and then tell her. If she doesn't agree to try to be more considerate and reciprocal, then perhaps you might consider parting ways. Relationships are a two way street, and I know that when you give and give and someone takes and takes, you end up feeling as if you have nothing left to give and it hurts a lot. I hope this has helped in some way.

soul_jd

thanks guys, but the thing is, this has happened before, and everytime ive tried to say something to her, i get the same sort of response, ''its always about you, your always bringing yourself into the situation, what about what i want etc'' its so annoying, eveytime and i MEAN everytime ive tried to say something to her thats what happened. she wont listen, she always thinks that she has to contact me everytime etc, turns out in the end she just headed off to the pictures with her, no contact no nothing. im actually driven up the walls with it now at this stage, but i dont want to lose her, i do love her, but she has been really unfair as of late.

i appreciate the help and advice by the way, but the thing is, its been tried, I honestly dont know what to do, Shes being really really immature and really dam selfish,
i honestly couldnt care less if shes with her friends but just the fact that she dosnt even bother to say, ya i wont be in later or anything! i mean this is ridiculous!

moral of the story is everytime i try to express a point to her, i get called selfish and am told that i need to grow up and be more mature, this is a joke!

chinesedoll

Turn the tables on her. Do the same thing and respond exactly as she responds and see how she takes it. If she doesn't realise...I hate to say it, but you will only end up more and more miserable as time goes on.

soul_jd

i think its my only option.. thank you

B.A._Baracus

Op,
Sorry for being direct here. But wash your hands as of right now. You are being strung along and you are going to get dumped. Don't allow that to happen to yourself.


'You see the cards coming. So why play' ...

Piliger

Hi OP.

It's like this ... if you were asked what kind of girl you would like as a girl friend, and what kind of a relationship would you like to have with her for the next year ... would it look ANYTHING like this relationship ?

'nuff said.

Taltos

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