issue with neighbour

LegacyUser

i live in a house that has been made into a number of different apartments. just over a year ago a friend moved into one of the other flats. thats when it all started.

it started with the man living next to her. their was an issue between them and it was all she would talk about. the man was hounded out of his apartment. she eventually gets over it and moves onto her next thing.

the people living above her make noise. she says they stamp and throw things around. yet any time im up there ive never heard a sound. she goes on and on about her rights and how its unacceptable. we advised her to go to threshold. she went and was advised to send a letter to our landlord. this was a few weeks ago and the letter is still not sent. yet she makes noise herself that she says is to stop the people above making noise. ive told her this disrupts the rest of the house but she thinks that if she has to listen to noise the rest of us should. any noise i say i hear isnt as important as what shes hearing.

finally, she has a drink problem. she has taken drink i have had for myself when im not in the room only last nite. every evening she visits she smells of drink. if we have an argument she blames the drink. this and jelousy over me having a boyfriend was made very obvious last nite.

this is the biggest single issue for me right now. i have an anxiety problem and i have sorted out all my other problems but this is the only thing that still is keeping stress in my life.

Vicar in a tutu

Could you pretend your not in next time she calls?, slowly distance yourself from her, she really doesnt seem like a good friend! who in their right mind would go into somebodys room and take drink without being offered? and make you feel bad about having a boyfriend! , You have a right to feel comfortable at home! , I've known people like her before, they always have a problem with someone, If the people above her leave she will then have a problem with the next person that moves in, who does she think she is treating you like this .. maybe if she behaved herself and sorted herself out she would get a boyfriend, she really sounds like trouble, OP I think you should definitely distance yourself from her. Best of luck and dont stress yourself over her.

Squiggler

Can you move? I'd suggest making yourself less available to spend time with her if she sounded more reasonable, but with drink taken it is likely that she might cause scenes.

Unless you and the other tenants can arrange with the landlord to have her evicted then I think it might be necessary for you to move.

Best of luck.

LegacyUser

ill be moving in a year. cant move right now as i need to be close to my college for september. i would like to talk to my landlord about this is it a valid reason to want her evicted?

thanks for your advice

Zoria

People like her suck the life out of you with their non stop dramas, they're just toxic to be around. I'd begin avoiding her like the plague for starters, but I suspect she won't let you do that seeing as you live so close. I actually think I'd up and leave in your scenario.