Will i get found out?

LegacyUser

Hi there,

A guy I know locally has a gf who cheats on him regularly. Everyone else around knows this and talk behind his back. I know its none of my business in many ways but if I was being made a fool of like that I would be grateful to be made aware. I did mention to girl before and she just accused me of being jealous and fancying her bf genuinely don't. I have long term bf.

Anyway I sent a text message to this guy from an old phone that I bought for work years ago and never used. I just said had heard rumours and maybe he should speak to girlfriend. This wad after seeing her capping off with a guy while bf was home sick.

I know many of you will say I should have kept out so please do not come on here lambasting me its done. Am starting to worry though that she might deny everything and might trace text back to me. What I am asking that if he or her contacted the phone company would they give out my name? I know she will make my life hell if she finds out. She is just one of those people who gets everyone on side eventhough they complain behind her back.

It is a pay as you go phone by the way!

Ellsbells

Did you register the number? Did you add it to the public phone book? If so then they could. Can you call the company and find out if you can deactivate it

leeroybrown

It's unlikely to be traced back. Even if the number is registered in your name the phone company are unlikely to give it out given that it's a data protection breach. The only exception is if you allowed it to be public registered in phone directory services (see above).

Also, it's generally far safer to keep out of these things. In my experience the person who spills the beans isn't seen in a good light by anyone involved even if they're doing a good deed.

username123

Probably not.

I think its a bit bizarre that you felt the need to send the message at all tbh, is this guy a particularly good friend of yours - it doesnt sound it in your post. You might ask yourself why you feel the need to interfere in other peoples lives, its strange.

Merkin

advicepls wrote: »

I know its none of my business in many ways

It's not your business in ANY way. I really think you should take a long hard look at your own life and ask yourself why it's so empty and devoid of any excitement that you feel the need to meddle in the lives of people whom you don't even know that well. It's strange, it's disturbing and ultimately quite a dangerous game to start playing. Concentrate on your own life and what's lacking in it rather than single-handedly deciding you're soing to assume the mantel of local Good Samaritan who goes around (potentially) ruining other people's lives.

snafuk35

advicepls wrote: »

Hi there,

A guy I know locally has a gf who cheats on him regularly. Everyone else around knows this and talk behind his back. I know its none of my business in many ways but if I was being made a fool of like that I would be grateful to be made aware. I did mention to girl before and she just accused me of being jealous and fancying her bf genuinely don't. I have long term bf.

Anyway I sent a text message to this guy from an old phone that I bought for work years ago and never used. I just said had heard rumours and maybe he should speak to girlfriend. This wad after seeing her capping off with a guy while bf was home sick.

I know many of you will say I should have kept out so please do not come on here lambasting me its done. Am starting to worry though that she might deny everything and might trace text back to me. What I am asking that if he or her contacted the phone company would they give out my name? I know she will make my life hell if she finds out. She is just one of those people who gets everyone on side eventhough they complain behind her back.

It is a pay as you go phone by the way!

How can she trace the call back to you?
She's not in the Special Detective Unit or something?
If the guy has any cop on he will wonder why an anonymous text is telling him his gf is cheating on him and he will act on it himself and get rid of her.
I think that the last thing that will happen is you will be blamed.
It is a bit bizarre that you think this horrible woman will somehow end up with this poor guy anyway and turn everyone against you for blowing the whistle.

leeroybrown

snafuk35 wrote: »

It is a bit bizarre that you think this horrible woman will somehow end up with this poor guy anyway and turn everyone against you for blowing the whistle.

You really would be surprised when it comes to relationships. There's even a chance that if he found out the OP sent the message he'd take it out on them too.

Lorna123

advicepls wrote: »

Hi there,

A guy I know locally has a gf who cheats on him regularly. Everyone else around knows this and talk behind his back. I know its none of my business in many ways but if I was being made a fool of like that I would be grateful to be made aware. I did mention to girl before and she just accused me of being jealous and fancying her bf genuinely don't. I have long term bf.

Anyway I sent a text message to this guy from an old phone that I bought for work years ago and never used. I just said had heard rumours and maybe he should speak to girlfriend. This wad after seeing her capping off with a guy while bf was home sick.

I know many of you will say I should have kept out so please do not come on here lambasting me its done. Am starting to worry though that she might deny everything and might trace text back to me. What I am asking that if he or her contacted the phone company would they give out my name? I know she will make my life hell if she finds out. She is just one of those people who gets everyone on side eventhough they complain behind her back.

It is a pay as you go phone by the way!

I think it was very brave of you to try to inform this guy about what is happening, it shows you have a conscience. I would hate to see a nice guy treated like this. Isn't it a bit peculiar that he has no idea though what she is like if everyone else knows. I doubt your name could be traced to that phone as the phone companies do not give out names, they ask for id before they give out any information at all and anyone ringing in looking for that sort of information would have to give their names first. You will never be traced, so rest assured.

blatantrereg

I wouldn't be surprised if the girl hears about the message, or sees it, and guesses it was you. I wouldn't be surprised if she reacted badly, nor if the boyfriend reacted badly.

It's a good idea to stay out of things like this because they can create hassle for yourself. At the same time I completely understand why you did it. I hate to see someone made a fool of. Moral outrage doesn't reflect a lack of things going on in your life. If you saw someone being pick-pocketed and reacted by telling them, that would be the right thing to do - and personally I'd much prefer to be pickpocketed than be openly cheated on.

Abdul Abulbul Amir

advicepls wrote: »

Hi there,

A guy I know locally has a gf who cheats on him regularly. Everyone else around knows this and talk behind his back. I know its none of my business in many ways but if I was being made a fool of like that I would be grateful to be made aware. I did mention to girl before and she just accused me of being jealous and fancying her bf genuinely don't. I have long term bf.

Anyway I sent a text message to this guy from an old phone that I bought for work years ago and never used. I just said had heard rumours and maybe he should speak to girlfriend. This wad after seeing her capping off with a guy while bf was home sick.

I know many of you will say I should have kept out so please do not come on here lambasting me its done. Am starting to worry though that she might deny everything and might trace text back to me. What I am asking that if he or her contacted the phone company would they give out my name? I know she will make my life hell if she finds out. She is just one of those people who gets everyone on side eventhough they complain behind her back.

It is a pay as you go phone by the way!

Ignore the naysayers, you did what you thought was right, there was nothing else you could have done. I wouldn't say it's an issue, like has been said before the phone company isn't just going to give out your name to whoever asks for it, assuming they even have it. As long as no one else who knows them has that number and knows it's you you should be fine.