Hens party, who pays?

battleaxe88

Hi,

Just a quick question. My sister is having her hens night soon. She wants to just stay local so I want to decorate the area we'll be sitting. Would I be wrong in asking her fiance to give some money towards the decorations? Would only need about €20. I cant really afford to pay for it all myself. The night in itself is expensive. I'm not bridesmaid if that makes any difference.

thanks

Lustrum

Do all the girls going not just chip in to cover the costs of say dinner and make sure it doesn't cost the bride anything? If there are 10 plus the bride that's €2 extra a head. Or you could just drink €20 less that you might that night, or another night.

With all due respect, regardless of whether you're bridesmaid or not, €20 is not a lot of money to make sure your sister has a great send off

adamski8

whatever about you having to pay, why should the fiance pay for it, nothing to do with him

tinkerbell

It's the bridesmaids who should be organising the hen, not you so any costs they should be asking everybody going for a small donation rather that you being out of pocket.

Cathmandooo

Ask the bridesmaids and not the groom. Are you sure the bridesmaids haven't planned decorations themselves?

soap1978

battleaxe good name

battleaxe88

Thanks for the replies.. TBH just not sure how these things work. I thought the maid of honour usually organises these things but after talking to her she doesnt seemed to have done anything for it. We're not goin out for a meal just ordering in with a few drinks before we head out so we'll pay for her food and stuff there.
I'm already spending some of my own money on it, as i said cant afford to pay all of it just wasn't sure where the rest of the money should come from.

Cathmandooo

Some bridesmaids don't bother going the extra mile with decorations. So I'd say if you want them it's going to come out of your pocket. You can't buy things and bill others for them. You'd have to get the bridesmaids on board for it to be a group purchase

woodchuck

It's strange that the bridesmaids aren't organising this! I'd try to get them involved in the planning; this way you's can split the costs between you in the run up and if everyone who attends gives a small amount on the night to cover the cost of the bride at least (let them know in advance, but I'd say a fiver each at most), then you's can get some of your money back from that.

I definitely wouldn't ask her fiance though. Unfortunately I think whoever plans these things are always a bit out of pocket, but if you get other people involved it shouldn't be by too much.

Gatica

Usually bridesmaids organise and pay for the decorations and the like. However, a lot of brides pay for themselves when it's a weekend away or something like that. If it's dinner and drinks, then I'd imagine the bridesmaids would organise for those attending to chip in and cover the bride.

If you're quite young, I'm sure the fiance wouldn't mind helping financially with his bride-to-be's hen. We budgeted for our stag and hen together. It was part of our wedding budget from the start.

If you think the bridesmaids have put little effort into organising this event for your sister, maybe they need a push. Get in touch with them, run a few suggestions by them how you think it could be improved or made special for her by adding these touches. Mention that it would be relatively cheap if everyone gets involved. Definitely try to get them on board on this. It could look like you're trying to take over from them otherwise and there could be bitter feelings as a consequence.
If they don't get involved though it may be the case that you'll be left footing the bill, especially if it's for something you felt was important but the rest didn't.

battleaxe88

All sorted now, got onto the rest of the Hens party everyone's willing to pitch in the €10 per person needed so that's a relief.. I cannow concentrate on making it a good night rather than worrying about money..

Thanks again.

Toast4532

The bridesmaids usually pay, so I would leave it up to them to organise it and pay for it.