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Texting

  • 13-07-2012 11:35am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi,

    I recently met a guy and he said he would text and he did and we arranged to meet up soon. He has not text again in nearly a week. Is he "just not that into me"?

    Would like some opinions.

    Thanks.


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  • #2
    Beruthiel
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    If he was that interested, he'd have organised to see you again by now.
    Delete his number and move on.


  • #3
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    I personally believe that texting has ruined the whole dating scene - there's so many games involved in it. OP, if they haven't texted you, they probably aren't interested in you. Sometimes empty promises are easier than just saying no. Easier yes, nicer - hell no.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hi,

    OP here. He did text but I'm away for a couple of weeks so couldn't meet him so it was left up to me to text him. He should have kept texting if was interested.

    Thanks.


  • #5
    Beruthiel
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    Textingquestion wrote: »
    He should have kept texting if was interested.

    Should he?
    Where's that written?

    It's very simple, if you are still interested in him, CALL him up and ask him out for a drink.
    If he goes, he's interested.
    If he doesn't, he's not interested.


  • #6
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    *sigh*

    Sorry, but that's something that really grinds my gears and plays into the whole "game" of texting.

    OP, he texted you when he said he would. Are you interested in him? Then text him first.


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  • #7
    FishHook
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 79 ✭✭FishHook


    Textingquestion wrote: »
    Hi,

    OP here. He did text but I'm away for a couple of weeks so couldn't meet him so it was left up to me to text him. He should have kept texting if was interested.

    Thanks.

    The onus is on you to text him back, so.


  • #8
    Big Bag of Chips
    Administrators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 14,914 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Big Bag of Chips


    I think you've blown your chance. If it was left to you to text him, he could write an identical post.

    - I texted a girl to meet up with her. She said she'd text me when she was available. I haven't heard from her in over a week... Do you think she's just not bothered?

    I dont get why its always the fella's job to make the first move. If you like him - Text him. Or better still ring him!

    As it stands neither of you know what's going on... And it looks like neither of you are bothered to find out.


  • #9
    BraziliaNZ
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 5,671 ✭✭✭BraziliaNZ


    Beruthiel wrote: »
    Should he?
    Where's that written?

    It's very simple, if you are still interested in him, CALL him up and ask him out for a drink.
    If he goes, he's interested.
    If he doesn't, he's not interested.

    Your black and white responses to everything are becoming very tiresome


  • #10
    Ickle Magoo
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    BraziliaNZ infracted.

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    Many thanks.


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  • #11
    Meauldsegosha
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,607 ✭✭✭Meauldsegosha


    Textingquestion wrote: »
    Hi,

    OP here. He did text but I'm away for a couple of weeks so couldn't meet him so it was left up to me to text him. He should have kept texting if was interested.

    Thanks.

    The onus is on you to text him then. If you are interested in him why haven't you sent him a text? We are not living in the 18th century here women are allowed talk to men, they are even allowed make the first move it they feel like it. :rolleyes:


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  • #12
    thefireinside
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 75 ✭✭thefireinside


    Beruthiel wrote: »
    Textingquestion wrote: »
    He should have kept texting if was interested.

    Should he?
    Where's that written?

    It's very simple, if you are still interested in him, CALL him up and ask him out for a drink.
    If he goes, he's interested.
    If he doesn't, he's not interested.

    Whatever you do, do NOT ring him! I always cringe when I read advice saying to ring straight away! If someone rang me that soon I'd be a little creeped out to be honest.

    Give him a text, build up a small bit of rapport/banter and then meeting up for a second time could come more naturally :)


  • #13
    BraziliaNZ
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 5,671 ✭✭✭BraziliaNZ


    thefireinside wrote: »
    Whatever you do, do NOT ring him! I always cringe when I read advice saying to ring straight away! If someone rang me that soon I'd be a little creeped out to be honest.

    Give him a text, build up a small bit of rapport/banter and then meeting up for a second time could come more naturally :)

    Texting is the etiquette these days, certain people don't seem to understand this. If they don't respond you know the score.


  • #14
    Stavro Mueller
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,673 ✭✭✭Stavro Mueller


    As a rule of thumb, someone who doesn't reply to your texts is hoping you'll take the hint and go away.

    In your case though, I feel you got it wrong. The guy's not telepathic you know. How was he supposed to know what you felt he should do? After all, you were the one who had to go away and told him you'd text him :confused: Most people tend to take others at their word.

    As to whether you've blown it with this lad, I don't know. That sort of game playing is real teenage schoolkid stuff. It's time to leave it behind and be more straightforward.


  • #15
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hi,

    thanks to everyone who replied. I text him and we are going to meet up. thanks again for all your replies, always good advice from all the boardies.


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