Which nationalities do you find the most romantic?

Conor30

OK, bit of a lighter topic here to balance the heavier ones!! From an LGBT perspective, which nationalities, in your experience, have you found the most romantic? This is wildly generalising of course!

As an Irish gay gay, I find Irish guys don't have a romantic bone in their body. I have found Filipino guys and north African guys tend to be quite romantic.
It's not unusual to see Moroccan lads have in their ads that they are searching for 'l'homme de ma vie' (man of my life) and 'le grand amour' (the great love), something you'd never find in its Irish counterpart!!


So, what's your experience? :D

Pedant

I like French. The most far flung I've been with was a Persian guy, quite romantic actually. But...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7lBlG9l5wpc

MultiUmm

'le grand amour' that's actually really sweet, if a small bit cheesy.

I honestly don't know how to answer though ... the most exotic guy I was with was Guatemalan but he lived here his whole life, he was sort of romantic I guess? :pac: But yeah, so far Irish guys haven't faired so well with the romance ... loads of them are just terrible at flirting as well, god almighty.

Conor30

MultiUmm wrote: »

'le grand amour' that's actually really sweet, if a small bit cheesy.

I honestly don't know how to answer though ... the most exotic guy I was with was Guatemalan but he lived here his whole life, he was sort of romantic I guess? :pac: But yeah, so far Irish guys haven't faired so well with the romance ... loads of them are just terrible at flirting as well, god almighty.

I don't find Irish guys are the worst at flirting though, to be honest. It was far worse in Manchester. My God...:rolleyes:

Irish (gay) guys definitely aren't romantic, are commitmentphobes and just want booty calls!!

1ZRed

Romance is so gay :pac:

I hate romance in anyway and I'm not at all romantic but I'm a good sweet talker and a real flirt if that justifies anything?

At a push I'd say the most romantic guy I was with/am with (complicated issue) is a New Zealander.

Even then, it wasn't very romantic at all but really nice. As you can see I'm not very good at that aspect of relationships:o

Is that such a bad thing though? I don't think a huge amount of romance is needed at all in a relationship. A small subtle bit could be nice but anything more puts me right off and if bad enough, would spook me!

Edit, who's to say we're the bad flirts and it's not just you guys?:P

Conor30

When I was 18 I wasn't romantic either.

OneArt

I like romance, since I'm not too into the sex part of things! The cheesy bollocks (har har) though makes me want to puke, but there has to be a bit of subtly, an emotional attachment and not just sexual. Someone who just wants a booty call can f*ck off because I'd rather a glass of wine.

I think the OP is completely right about (most) Irish guys. A friend of a friend (who didn't know very well) started coming onto me on a night out. I flirted back with him etc. but wasn't that interested. He managed to get my number off said friend and starting texting me the next day, sending rather sordid messages about the things he wanted to do to me. I had just met him the night before, so I was kind of perturbed. No courting, no "let's go for a drink", just a blatant, "Come over to mine and we'll spend the day doing filthy things" (that's the toned down version).

The last guy I was in a relationship with was Irish and the relationship was more affectionate than anything else. I'd love to find something like that again but in general I find a lot of guys to be incredibly sleazy and way too forward.

It's one of those situations where I infinitely prefer women!

Donnaghm

OneArt wrote: »

I like romance, since I'm not too into the sex part of things! The cheesy bollocks (har har) though makes me want to puke, but there has to be a bit of subtly, an emotional attachment and not just sexual. Someone who just wants a booty call can f*ck off because I'd rather a glass of wine.

I think the OP is completely right about (most) Irish guys. A friend of a friend (who didn't know very well) started coming onto me on a night out. I flirted back with him etc. but wasn't that interested. He managed to get my number off said friend and starting texting me the next day, sending rather sordid messages about the things he wanted to do to me. I had just met him the night before, so I was kind of perturbed. No courting, no "let's go for a drink", just a blatant, "Come over to mine and we'll spend the day doing filthy things" (that's the toned down version).

The last guy I was in a relationship with was Irish and the relationship was more affectionate than anything else. I'd love to find something like that again but in general I find a lot of guys to be incredibly sleazy and way too forward.

It's one of those situations where I infinitely prefer women!

Well enunciated. There's also a strange lack of vocabulary among the populace who us Grindr and the like. "Hi" and "Hows u" and "wat u up2" is all they can manage. To which I reply back with an apathetic "Hi".

Daith

Donnaghm wrote: »

Well enunciated. There's also a strange lack of vocabulary among the populace who us Grindr and the like. "Hi" and "Hows u" and "wat u up2" is all they can manage. To which I reply back with an apathetic "Hi".

Hey
Hi
How are you?
I'm good how are you?
Yeah good. Good weekend?
Yeah it was alright. You?
Yeah same. I'm John. You?
Sean
Any more pics?
Yeah

If find pics attractive continue conversation
If not -> stop conversation or block

1ZRed

Donnaghm wrote: »

Well enunciated. There's also a strange lack of vocabulary among the populace who us Grindr and the like. "Hi" and "Hows u" and "wat u up2" is all they can manage. To which I reply back with an apathetic "Hi".

That's not the case with me. I see that 90% of the time and unless they're hot I don't bother because "Hi" is actually hard to build off of and get the conversation going somewhere good.
I think if you're witty and funny it gets you a long way with guys there. Helps me punch above my weight sometimes and I know if all I said was "Hi" I'd get tired of that easily and nothing would happen.
I've meet some really cool guys off it though.

Btw, wtf is it with most guys on there that use text speak all the time? Annoys the sh1t into me.

baby and crumble

Back on topic...



I have no idea about other nationalities, because I've only ever been with Irish people (which makes me sound terrible, but these things happen, it wasn't a conscious decision!!) but I think Irish girls can be quite romantic. I love romance, I love surprising my GF with silly little things. You don't need to spend a lot, and in a long term relationship you really need to make sure you stay on your toes, romance wise.

gcgirl

I'm a sucker for aussie wimmin

Conor30

Donnaghm wrote: »

Well enunciated. There's also a strange lack of vocabulary among the populace who us Grindr and the like. "Hi" and "Hows u" and "wat u up2" is all they can manage. To which I reply back with an apathetic "Hi".

I don't use Grindr myself, but I suppose they're just initially seeing if you fancy them in their picture or not. There's no point writing a few sentences of an intro if the person on the other end doesn't even fancy you and isn't going to reply anyway. After a reply, if their second message is still short and vacuous, then I'd be losing interest all right.

Conor30

1ZRed wrote: »

Btw, wtf is it with most guys on there that use text speak all the time? Annoys the sh1t into me.

Text speak doesn't bother me personally, though I wouldn't use it on someone I don't know in a reply to an ad, in case it bothers them!

Conor30

Daith wrote: »

Hey
Hi
How are you?
I'm good how are you?
Yeah good. Good weekend?
Yeah it was alright. You?
Yeah same. I'm John. You?
Sean
Any more pics?
Yeah

If find pics attractive continue conversation
If not -> stop conversation or block

If you get an initial message on gaydar or whatever, that says "Hi, what ya up to?" I always laugh to myself, because what are you going to reply to a total stranger! I suppose it's hard to know what to say at the very beginning!

Back on topic, I find most Irish gays guys don't really make much of an effort. Their lack of romance is simply part of this half-hearted attitude.

Conor30

Hopefully in the future, when gay relationships are more valued by society, gay people themselves might value them more also. When there is marriage equality and role models of married LGBTs in Ireland, then it might be seen as something more worth emulating for many gay people. As things stand, many LGBT people in Ireland are closeted and the emphasis can be more on booty calls rather than romance and relationships. Wow, that's heavy for a Friday night!!

Donnaghm

Conor30 wrote: »

Hopefully in the future, when gay relationships are more valued by society, gay people themselves might value them more also. When there is marriage equality and role models of married LGBTs in Ireland, then it might be seen as something more worth emulating for many gay people. As things stand, many LGBT people in Ireland are closeted and the emphasis can be more on booty calls rather than romance and relationships. Wow, that's heavy for a Friday night!!

Heavy, but very true. There's an awful lot of thoughtful folks on this forum though but I guess we're not representative!

DubArk

Romance: My other half is British of Irish parents. He was born and raised in the UK and he identifies as a British Person… (Has a habit of jumping sides when the rugby’s on) that’s a whole other story...
I’d say I’m the romantic one(Irish) but over the years it’s been discouraged, mocked and even ridiculed. It was only me, for example on Valentines Day that would get him a bloody card and even a Rose….. He’d stand there and piss himself laughing stating that I was buying into the whole Hallmark crap and to cut it out. I was mortally wounded if I remember on more then one occasion…. Drama Rama, I cringe when I think of it now lol!!!

Of course he was right! It was never the one offs or the big gesture that was romantic, it was the everyday things that mattered!! So on reflection he’s far more romantic!!

Conor30

DubArk wrote: »

Romance: My other half is British of Irish parents. He was born and raised in the UK and he identifies as a British Person… (Has a habit of jumping sides when the rugby’s on) that’s a whole other story...
I’d say I’m the romantic one(Irish) but over the years it’s been discouraged, mocked and even ridiculed. It was only me, for example on Valentines Day that would get him a bloody card and even a Rose….. He’d stand there and piss himself laughing stating that I was buying into the whole Hallmark crap and to cut it out. I was mortally wounded if I remember on more then one occasion…. Drama Rama, I cringe when I think of it now lol!!!

Of course he was right! It was never the one offs or the big gesture that was romantic, it was the everyday things that mattered!! So on reflection he’s far more romantic!!

I don't know about that. I think they're both equally romantic gestures in their own different ways. You don't have to give a card if you don't want to buy into the whole Hallmark 'crap' but flowers and a meal on Valentines Day or some day around it is a lovely idea, I think. You make Valentine's Day to be whatever you want it to be. Why not have the 'everyday things' as well as the 'one off gestures'? I think some men are afraid to show a softer side, especially to another man. They're conditioned to be otherwise.