appear distant to other people?

choosinganame

Hey, so I've an odd problem..

I'm 20 now and since I was about 16 I've been getting comments on my "state of being" so to speak. People say that I have "a distant look in my eyes" or that I appear "emotionless" and this really upsets me- because it's not true at all!

What, if anything, can I do to fix this??

Any advice really appreciated ",

edellc

choosinganame wrote: »

Hey, so I've an odd problem..

I'm 20 now and since I was about 16 I've been getting comments on my "state of being" so to speak. People say that I have "a distant look in my eyes" or that I appear "emotionless" and this really upsets me- because it's not true at all!

What, if anything, can I do to fix this??

Any advice really appreciated ",

Firstly OP who are these people who are saying this to you, family, friends?? and if so they need to seriously have a look in the mirror.

At 16 everyone has a vacant look in their face when dealing with stuff they dont want to or some people just have that have a distant look anyway which can come across as emotionless, from my understanding it justs means your face isnt animated when their talking to you or you could be avoiding eye contact but be unaware of it or you could be listening intently on what is being said and taking it in and really thinking about it while taking it in so therefore look as if your a million miles away and distant

To me it depends who is saying it, if it is just random people you meet or acquittance's then who cares what they think of you, it however its a family member or friend then next time it is said tell them that, that is not the case that you are interested in what they are saying and taking it in and do what to help with whatever it is being said and that it upsets you when they say that you look distant or emotionless as they say

Also you dont need to answer this on boards but where are they from, I have family that are from a certain part of the city that I come from and due to age, eduction and surroundings they word things differently to they way I would and if in any way you are different to how they are then they see this as weird and can use quite offensive vocabulary to describe it, I'm not judging them its just how it is and I accept that but take it with a pinch of salt, so look at all the factors involved as to what is being said, by that I mean you and how you interact with others and the people who say what they are saying to you

choosinganame

Its everyone. I think I just have a certain set of eyes. Oh F it.

looksee

This might be overly simplistic, but do you wear glasses? Have you had your eyes checked?