Difficult Decision

LegacyUser

Hello, I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this but I'll give it a go. I've been in employment for the past year which I was very lucky to get with the way things are. I wasnt mad about the work I was doing as I found it very boring and tbh I wasnt doing a lot in my year there. Also is the fact is the evenings are very long here with little to do as Im away from home and most times there is nobody in house Im staying in so it gets me down a lot (as I dont have a lot of friends - if any really). I decided to apply to college for a postgrad in something that I wanted to do in which I got a place next September. In the past week I got offered a new temporary contract for another year which I accepted. Its in a different role but Im now unsure if ive made the right decision which is starting to stress me out and Im starting to get very unsettled here. As Im writing this I have spent the last few evenings and nights here on my own which I dont like at all. I think I may have missed a chance of doing something that I want to do, getting out of this pure lonesome house & finding new friends which Im finding very hard to do in my present job.

Can anybody offer any advice? Should I drop the job that I accepted? I just feel very unsure and unsettled here at the moment.

Roisy7

It's not really my place to say whether you made the right decision OP, only you can do that.

When you say it is in a new role, is it much different from the old one? Will you have more responsibility, will be interesting? As it's only a year will you do your post-grad afterwards?

Can you stick out another year of being in that house, essentially on your own, or can you move?

Write a list of the pros and cons of each option and then maybe you will be able to see clearly.

All I will say is that it is easy to get stuck in a rut, but only you can get yourself out of it by taking chances... Maybe you feel a bit guilty for thinking of not accepting a job given the 'current climate'? Don't let that be your primary motivator, if it's not right for you it's not right.

Best of luck

skooterblue2

I dont think your problem is with work or college. This is supposed to be your first year out of college. Very few people actually enjoy their work its just a means to an end to pay the rent and put bread on the table.

Are you getting paid? What I mean by that is, are your expenses and rent being paid with a bit extra left over for a bit extra , even if it is only a little bit? I think you would be better off working. Any job is hard to come by in this environment.

I think your real issue is that you need to improve your social circle. Doing Charity/Voluntary work is a great way to add something to your CV and expand your social circle. You need a social treat twice a week to get you motivated. I only saw TAG Rugby last week on Modern Ireland. It looked like a great way and not too serious to meet people. Dont approach this timidly Jump right in and you are doing this at the right time just before clubs and associations reconvene for the Autumn.

kiwipower

Roisy7 wrote: »

It's not really my place to say whether you made the right decision OP, only you can do that.

When you say it is in a new role, is it much different from the old one? Will you have more responsibility, will be interesting? As it's only a year will you do your post-grad afterwards?

Can you stick out another year of being in that house, essentially on your own, or can you move?

Write a list of the pros and cons of each option and then maybe you will be able to see clearly.

All I will say is that it is easy to get stuck in a rut, but only you can get yourself out of it by taking chances... Maybe you feel a bit guilty for thinking of not accepting a job given the 'current climate'? Don't let that be your primary motivator, if it's not right for you it's not right.

Best of luck

+1
I myself am in a permanent job, decent wage, 30s, but not finding any personal reward in my job or career any longer. Am seriously considering going back to study in 2013, once I figure out what new career I want,while present climate is a slight worry, I would not that be my deciding factor. But then I'm lucky to have a career that will always get me a job anywhere in the world.

I think its important to remember that you will spend many decades working. Is what your doing or thinking of doing going to bring you personal reward for the next year? The next five years? The next 10? If you take this job will you get caught in life &not be able to go back to study for your phd? Or will an extra years wages help you to finance the study? Or could you start the phd part-time around the job for a year?

LegacyUser

Thanks everybody for your advice. I suppose the main issue here is really the fact that I am notoriously shy and I dont really have much of an outlet which is what I so badly crave and is getting me down & leading me to depression. My reasoning for going back to college was that that there would be more people my age (Im early 20's) and a better chance of an outlet than whats offered to me at present. At the moment Im in a medium sized town in the midlands and there dosent seem to be much to do (and as Im really shy I tend to avoid doing things or am really slow to do something or get involved particularly on my own even if Id like to) Seemingly everybody at work is at least 10 - 15 years older than me so sometimes its hard to fit in as they have different interests as their at a different period of life although the job Ive accepted is a great job and a great opportunity. The fact that Im alone in the house I'm renting atm really hits it home as well. I dont know if I will stick at this and I just feel I'm going to regret it.