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  • 08-07-2012 5:09pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I have a friend that I met about a year ago and at the time it was an FB situation that sort of became a friends thing it was clear enough he would have liked more and at the time I wasnt ready for that. He then met someone else and I copped on that I was ready as ya do and then the guy he was seeing just sort of fizzled out stopped contacting him and so on we had a chat about it and he is saying that he is not ready now and could we give it some time so am just wondering first if I am the fall back guy now and if not how much time should I give it


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  • #2
    Caiseoipe19
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 361 ✭✭Caiseoipe19


    Why would you see yourself as the fallback guy if it was you that was reluctant to become more involved in the first place? Most people you'll meet will have dated someone prior to you...it doesn't mean you're a fallback guy. Maybe he got hurt by the other guy so it's quite understandable if he doesn't want to rush into another situation from which he may get hurt again. On top of that, by the sounds of it, the two seem fairly close friends in that you are able to talk about personal things...maybe he doesn't want to risk losing you're friendship? At the end of the day you know best.


  • #3
    1ZRed
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,293 ✭✭✭1ZRed


    helprequired1982 wrote: »
    I have a friend that I met about a year ago and at the time it was an FB situation that sort of became a friends thing it was clear enough he would have liked more and at the time I wasnt ready for that. He then met someone else and I copped on that I was ready as ya do and then the guy he was seeing just sort of fizzled out stopped contacting him and so on we had a chat about it and he is saying that he is not ready now and could we give it some time so am just wondering first if I am the fall back guy now and if not how much time should I give it

    You're not a rebound. If you were he would have been with and more or less done with you by now.
    He just wants some space, he could have really liked that guy and is a bit down it didn't work out if that's the case- that's pretty normal.
    Just be his friend, make him laugh and put want you want to the back of your head until everything naturally falls into place. I'm not saying it's guaranteed but I find when you don't try (as in don't actively pursue it) it's more likely to work out because you're not forcing it. Sure if you feel it's not heading down that way at least you'll have him as your friend:)


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