Too self conscious/foreign girl.

LegacyUser

Well, as the title suggests, I'm too self-conscious and looking for advice.

I've been talking to a Estonian girl now for a while and we (I think) hit it off. Talking most days on Skype to all hours of the morning and then playing online games with each other for a few hours a day, too. I bumped into her during a online game I play a lot and then Skype came into it.

We didn't give each other our Facebooks or anything. All we have to go by is our Skype photo's. Some of you might be aware that those pictures are really small, so one day I was curious and tried to see if I could find her on Facebook. So I found her and was really taken back. She is so far out of my league, looks wise. I use a photo that doesn't show my deformity on my face. I'm afraid if it ever came to the Facebook thing, that will be it - she will be gone. Albeit it's not that bad(Big nose), but it has turned off a lot of Irish women who don't look half as good as she does.


After so many months talking to this girl, I've started to fall for her and I honestly don't want it to end. Are foreign girls as big into looks as Irish girls? I get nowhere with Irish girls. Dated two foreign girls before and always got rejected by Irish girls. Put those two foreign girls together and multiply it by a hundred. She's model worthy and a few friends completely agree with me.

Getting intimately closer and closer everyday....I just don't know what to do.

Eve_Dublin

eoghan8001 wrote: »

Well, as the title suggests, I'm too self-conscious and looking for advice.

I've been talking to a Estonian girl now for a while and we (I think) hit it off. Talking most days on Skype to all hours of the morning and then playing online games with each other for a few hours a day, too. I bumped into her during a online game I play a lot and then Skype came into it.

We didn't give each other our Facebooks or anything. All we have to go by is our Skype photo's. Some of you might be aware that those pictures are really small, so one day I was curious and tried to see if I could find her on Facebook. So I found her and was really taken back. She is so far out of my league, looks wise. I use a photo that doesn't show my deformity on my face. I'm afraid if it ever came to the Facebook thing, that will be it - she will be gone. Albeit it's not that bad(Big nose), but it has turned off a lot of Irish women who don't look half as good as she does.


After so many months talking to this girl, I've started to fall for her and I honestly don't want it to end. Are foreign girls as big into looks as Irish girls? I get nowhere with Irish girls. Dated two foreign girls before and always got rejected by Irish girls. Put those two foreign girls together and multiply it by a hundred. She's model worthy and a few friends completely agree with me.

Getting intimately closer and closer everyday....I just don't know what to do.

Sounds like looks are quite important in woman for you too, OP as the fact that she's stunning seems to be the only thing you refer to. Nothing about her personality etc.

Are foreign women as into looks as Irish women? Answer: of course they are. I live in Spain and I'd say this culture is even less forgiving of physical "flaws" than the Irish as they'd be more conventionally good looking (generally speaking). Appearance is more important here than Ireland. Foreign men are also into them as much as Irish men are. I don't think there's anything wrong with this, however. Being physically attracted to someone is what differentiates a friendship from a sexual relationship.

Can I ask you how you know you were rejected based on your nose? Did they say that to you? Perhaps because it's something you personally feel self-conscious about you've amplified the problem by a million in your head.

I'd say bite the bullet and send her a photo of yourself "warts and all" (we all have them).

If it's any consolation, I like men with big noses. My boyfriend now has a big nose and it's one of my favourite things about his physical appearance.

Things we dislike about ourselves are never as bad in the eyes of others and we all have something we don't like about ourselves. Don't be so hard on yourself.

analucija

eoghan8001 wrote: »

Well, as the title suggests, I'm too self-conscious and looking for advice.

I've been talking to a Estonian girl now for a while and we (I think) hit it off. Talking most days on Skype to all hours of the morning and then playing online games with each other for a few hours a day, too. I bumped into her during a online game I play a lot and then Skype came into it.

We didn't give each other our Facebooks or anything. All we have to go by is our Skype photo's. Some of you might be aware that those pictures are really small, so one day I was curious and tried to see if I could find her on Facebook. So I found her and was really taken back. She is so far out of my league, looks wise. I use a photo that doesn't show my deformity on my face. I'm afraid if it ever came to the Facebook thing, that will be it - she will be gone. Albeit it's not that bad(Big nose), but it has turned off a lot of Irish women who don't look half as good as she does.


After so many months talking to this girl, I've started to fall for her and I honestly don't want it to end. Are foreign girls as big into looks as Irish girls? I get nowhere with Irish girls. Dated two foreign girls before and always got rejected by Irish girls. Put those two foreign girls together and multiply it by a hundred. She's model worthy and a few friends completely agree with me.

Getting intimately closer and closer everyday....I just don't know what to do.

If it makes you feel any better, eastern european girls seem to be a lot prettier than men so you will have less competition from locals.

Seriously, I don't think you can judge by nationality what is important to someone. She might be falling for you already without seeing your picture. Or maybe she already searched facebook for your pics and still talks to you. Just bite the bullet and send her pics.

Magicmatilda

I'm an Irish woman and I find large noses very attractive. In fact it would draw me to someone. A lot of my friends think that is odd or funny but that's just what I like. I would imagine it's same with other nationalities, some women will find you attractive some won't. although I like a large nose, a good few of my exes have not had big noses because looks aren't everything for me. I have to be attracted to a man but the attraction, for me is not based on looks alone.

Either way it's seems a bit premature to be worrying about your "deformity" (strange choice of words btw). You haven't even shared facebook details so I imagine you are a good way off meeting up. Or have you already planned that?

blatantrereg

There are a lot of Russians resident in Estonia who don't have Estonian [or EU] citizenship.
Lots of Russians have largish noses, so maybe yours wouldn't seem so bad to her in that case.
Ethnic Russians often aren't always terribly popular in former Soviet states. Having Irish (and EU) citizenship/residence might make you a lot more attractive to someone in that situation. Your apparent humility might also be attractive in that context.

It seems odd that such an attractive woman would put so much time into an online relationship as you describe, unless there is something like that involved tbh. You don't describe yourself as especially attractive to women in general, and the only way she can interact with you is via skype etc.