minor thing; saying they'd call and then not doing so

LegacyUser

my gf is on holiday with her family for the last week. Going over myself in a week before she's back.

Have been spending lots of time together the last couple of months; seen her most days. On days when I haven't she's texted and talked on the phone a lot. She'd initiate that more than me.

She mentioned just before she left that she didn't want to maintain the same level of contact because she'd be talking to her family lots etc, and said that she'd had issues with exes before over stuff like that. I get that, and I wouldn't be intrusive anyway.

I'm a bit bothered by one pretty small thing since she's gone though. I'm not sure if I am right to be annoyed, or if I'm being a bit dramatic. I haven't commented on it to her. I might wait until I see her in person to do so, if I decide it's worth mentioning at all.

All it is is that she spontaneously said she'd call/text at certain times, and then didn't. She said twice that she'd talk on skype on Sunday, and then didn't - though she did text to say goodnight. Then today she texted earlier and said she'd text when she was going to sleep, and didn't either.

I texted her on Monday after lunch, just asking how her day was - first time I initiated texting since she left, having heeded her remarks about intrusive exes. She didn't reply for hours, which isn't like her. I wondered if it was a funny change - she had usually texted me by then herself, and on Saturday and early Sunday she had said she was missing me lots. I didn't comment on that either. I inferred from brief conversation when she did text that she had had her phone with her.

Anyway, I'm not sure if I'm just annoyed because she seems to miss me less than I do her [which is normal enough when she's having fun on holiday, and I'm bored and have stuff to do]. Not sure if it's that [ie - my own problem and I should get over it] or if she's being a bit rude or dismissive or something and I should comment. I've no suspicions of her cheating or anything like that, just to be clear.

Incidentally I havent had any arguments with her the whole time I've known her. There is good communication - we've both been able to give and receive polite and reasonable criticism without any conflict. All the same, I've found with exes that it's terribly easy for things to get blown out of proportion when there's distance involved, so I am cautious about saying anything.

What do you reckon? Am I being a bit of a drama queen here, or is it worth bringing up?

MissFlitworth

If she was doing it regularly in real life & not on holidays then it would be worth mentioning but a couple of times forgetting to call or not being able to call when she's away with her family would be, to me, a petty thing to bring up with her.

Merkin

I can see where she is coming from and I'd let this one lie. When you're on holiday and in a different environment it can be really action-packed and she might not have a minute. You on the other hand have said that you're at home and bored so it means you're automatically both in quite different head spaces. If she was at home on terra firma and not keeping arrangements or ignoring texts then I would say it but I'd let this paritcular issue slide and say nothing if all else is good in your relationship. You're going to see her in a few days so don't get off on the wrong footing. Say nowt and only say something if she continues in this vein when at home.