no one to bring to a wedding

LegacyUser

Hi I'm from cork and my friend getting married the 1st week of August. I and a plus 1 are invited and am expected to go. However I dont have many friends other than thoes at the wedding and have no one to bring with me. I need some way to get out of going without offending my friend as I dont want to be the only person on his own.
Any help or advice Thanks

hoodwinked

if all your friends will be there then you wont really be on your own will you? not to mention will there be other other single people there?


if i were you id go, if you arent having fun then you could always slip away, but at least give it a go and see how it is?

stargazer 68

Op I very much doubt you will be the only one by yourself. Look at this way - you can come and go as you please, you dont have to 'mind' anyone and you never know - you may meet someone!

Go and enjoy yourself and stop worrying about it.

leggo

Aye, plus ones are one of those things that everybody stresses about before a wedding, but it's not uncommon at all these days to not go with someone. They're like debs in that respect. The past two weddings I've gone to I've gone just with a friend and no official +1. Seriously, it's not that big of a deal. Don't worry about it.

ash23

If you know other people at the wedding, just go alone. Call the bride/groom and ask them to seat you at a table with your friends. Then you won't even realise you're on your own.
Plus there will be loads of other people there who are single too so you might get lucky

ongarboy

I agree. It would be shame to avoid the special day of a good friend of yours just because you felt awkward about arriving alone. The fact that you have other mates there means you will not be alone. Also, on your RSVP make sure you respond that you and not we will be attending (to avoid an empty seat next to you if there are place names at the tables).

I've gone to a few weddings alone and they've been just as good fun as the ones I've been to with my OH. Everyone hangs out in groups rather than couples anyway. As someone else said, you also don't have to "mind" a partner who may not know anyone else at the wedding.

Munstermad

From someone whos been there, defo go, I had two weddings in as many weeks a while back. Was dreading them as was only recently single after 10 years... I had an absolute ball... I enjoyed them more than any other weddidngs I had gone to... Plzz go, if you are really not enjoying yourself as OP suggested then go early... You will regret it if you don't and your friend will be hurt.

LegacyUser

If you don't want to go to the wedding then don't go but if your only not going because you don't have a date then seriously don't stress about it OP. Go and enjoy yourself, no one is going to notice or care. I've been to 3 weddings by myself in the last year, two family, one close friend, and had a ball at all of them. Loads of people were there by themselves - either because they were single or their OH couldn't make it due to work/kids/money etc etc - unless you are going to a wedding with only 10 people at it chances are very very slim you'd be the only single person there. At one cousins wedding my table of 10 for the meal had only one couple, one girl whose boyfriend had to cancel at the last minute so she brought a friend so the meal didn't go to waste and the rest were all singles. I actually only knew one person at the table [another cousin] but we had a great laugh all of us during the meal and after on the dance floor.

Your not dating someone so why would you want to go find some random person to bring just for the sake of having a plus one? You'd only end up spending the whole night entertaining them as they'd know no one at the wedding. Seriously all your friends are going to be there, go have a great day!

Pippy1976

Why would your friend invite you +1 to a wedding when he / she knows you haven't got a +1? To me that's a bit ridiculous.

Anyway, aside from that, if you've no-one to bring with you then you're not obliged to bring someone just because the invite mentioned a +1. Go to the wedding... enjoy yourself... so you're not attached, who the hell cares????

Desperate lad wrote: »

Hi I'm from cork and my friend getting married the 1st week of August. I and a plus 1 are invited and am expected to go. However I dont have many friends other than thoes at the wedding and have no one to bring with me. I need some way to get out of going without offending my friend as I dont want to be the only person on his own.
Any help or advice Thanks

Sleepy

In my mind, a +1 means "if you've a new partner I've not met yet, bring them along" or for elderly relations that might need someone to give them a hand etc.

We'll be sending +1's to some of our guests at our wedding but tbh, I'll be a little peeved if someone brings along a mate I've never met before: why would anyone want randomers at their wedding?

Just reply accepting their invite and let them know it'll just be yourself. Most couples will be delighted to have their numbers reduced a little.

LegacyUser

I'm in the same situation as you at the minute OP, I’ve got 2 weddings coming up though. Seriously thinking about just going myself rather than taking someone for the sake of it, as most my friends wouldn’t know the 2 couples whose weddings I’m attending. First wedding am attending (college mate) I’ll only know a handful of people so am just going ask the couple to sit me with somebody I know for the meal. Worst part is probably going to the chapel myself, I’ll just try to spot someone I know and sit beside them.

Whiteflag12

I've been to two weddings earlier this year on my own, was dreading going as felt I would stick out like a sore thumb, especially the one abroad but really had a good time.

Agree that the ceremony part is the most awkward but I just arranged to meet a couple of people I knew that were going before we went in.

No point missing out on your friends wedding just because you don't have a plus one, go and enoy it, U never know you might meet other people there in the same position or even a potential date! :-)

Powerhouse

Desperate lad wrote: »

Hi I'm from cork and my friend getting married the 1st week of August. I and a plus 1 are invited and am expected to go. However I dont have many friends other than thoes at the wedding and have no one to bring with me. I need some way to get out of going without offending my friend as I dont want to be the only person on his own.
Any help or advice Thanks

When I was at the age where myself and my circle of friends were getting married - 10/15 years ago - there was no way any of us would have the remotest problem with going to such a wedding on our own. In fact, the last thing some of the guys would do was try to secure a 'date' for the wedding as they were among friends anyway and didn't exactly need someone to talk to or occupy them.

You and a 'plus 1' are invited out of courtesy, because it's the done thing, and because you might have a 'plus 1' by the time of the wedding for all the friend knows. Why someone would consider inviting a 'plus 1' to be ridiculous is beyond me. To do so when they know you don't have one at the moment is quite generous, and I know that some people would even be a bit offended if they weren't given such an option.

That said you can be sure that anyone who is friendly enough with you to ionvite you to their wedding would be disappointed if you didn't go especially for such a flimsy reason.

Remember that the wedding is about your friend and his wife - not about you.

LizT

I'd say you should go by yourself. I'm sure the couple wouldn't really want some randomer there for the sake of it. You'll be worried about that person being left alone, not knowing anyone there. Go by yourself and enjoy it and you never know, maybe you will meet someone there!

snafuk35

Desperate lad wrote: »

Hi I'm from cork and my friend getting married the 1st week of August. I and a plus 1 are invited and am expected to go. However I dont have many friends other than thoes at the wedding and have no one to bring with me. I need some way to get out of going without offending my friend as I dont want to be the only person on his own.
Any help or advice Thanks

Weddings are a romantic environment and there are sure to be a few single people there who don't have a date either. You can just have a laugh, go around chatting to people, dance with who you like and have fun. You might meet a stranger and it could be the beginning of something special.