messsed up dates

LegacyUser

i went on 2 dates with a girl i know but on both dates i didnt make a move i was nervous about approaching the first(it was more of a meet up than date) and the second time i was feeling unwell worried about my friends telling her i was gay(im not) and felt embarressed in front of them should have met her somewhere out of the way. she eventually went of someone i know

i apologised via facebook and then felt week for doing that should i just leave it?

blatantrereg

She went off with someone you knew when you were on a date with her? Yes definitely leave it.

a fat guy

Well you said the first one wasn't really a date and the second date didn't go too well, so maybe the bad impression put her off?

If she's with someone else now, then yeah, just leave it.

I'd also get some new friends who aren't going to try to tell girls that you like that you're gay.

You sound very sensitive though, so I would try to abstain from relationships and just have as much fun as you can! You'll feel all the more better without the pressure of relationships holding you back.

blatantrereg

I'd also get some new friends who aren't going to try to tell girls that you like that you're gay.

Yes definitely this too. Or just get some friends. Those people dont sound like they are your friends at all.

LegacyUser

shes not swith someone else. i dont think. she just went off with some. i think she did want to go out with me. i had no money and dissapearing looking for a loan



i was also hung over and couldnt really funtcion so good

this sounds worse and worse

i knew her before this and we are sort of friends

LegacyUser

what happens if i meet this person again should i explain to what happened?


or just forget it?

she sometime comments on my facebookbooks posts but its probably courtesy

i ran to get money and i got back my friends commented on how much i was sweating she must have thought i was really nervous

blatantrereg

You could casually mention that you hadn't been well and say sorry if you were feeling a bit off. Dont make a big deal of it, or get into details about runing for the cash machine. Talking too much about why you seemed nervous would just make you seem more nervous - it would be better not to comment at all than to make too much of it. It's ok to be a bit nervous - it can make people seem more genuine or something. Don't worry about being worried or you'll really do your head in.

Herrick

DO you mean you were out with her, went off to get money then when you returned she had gone off with someone else you knew? In the same night like?

What age are you both?

EGAR

Going on a date hungover isn't the best idea. And planning ahead is also a good idea so you do not have to *disappear*. You sound very young (no offense intended, obviously)?

LegacyUser

i am not very young. but i havent dated much and lack confidence
the date was set before i was drinking i suppose its my fault

my friends do think i am gay but would have said it in a jokey way or made comments when she headed off to where i didnt join her

snafuk35

dispireted wrote: »

i am not very young. but i havent dated much and lack confidence
the date was set before i was drinking i suppose its my fault

my friends do think i am gay but would have said it in a jokey way or made comments when she headed off to where i didnt join her

If she thinks your gay when you are clearly interested in girls she mustn't be very bright. She also went off with someone else when you were supposed to be on a date? These "friends" aren't your friends. And if you want to get with girls cut down on the drinking.

Stavro Mueller

Next time you have a date, resolve to behave like an adult. The only thing missing from this story was the note passed to the girl in class, asking if she'll go out with your friend.

I actually feel sorry for the girl. She obviously liked you or she'd not have agreed to the date. Then she finds herself meeting a drunk/hungover guy whose moronic friends are keeping an eye on proceedings and telling her that he's gay. He's acting weird and then to top it all off, he runs off after the friends to get money. No wonder she went off with someone else. The whole thing had a half-ar$ed sort of feel to it.

I'd also recommend you ask yourself if these people really are your friends. There's a big difference between laughing with someone and laughing at them.

As to whether you can pull this situation out of the fire, I honestly don't know. I suppose at this stage you've nothing to lose. You could apologise again, tell her you were nervous as hell and ask her would she like to meet up for a cup of coffee or something. If she likes you, you might have a chance. If she thinks you're a moron, that opinion's not going to change. It's worth a try.

LegacyUser

My friends did not tell her that or keep watching us. some of them werent friends but people in the pub.they might not have told her i was gay but have done so in the past once or twice . they acvtually think i am. i shouldnt have met her in the local.

i dissapeared to different friends to get money

i should say i have i am pretty sure social anxiety

i apologised on facebook but should have met up for coffee as you say

i actually feel quite down about the whole thing. i must be a bit of a sad sack

i have met her since but dont know if she likes me or not she has since snogged me drunk

snafuk35

dispirited wrote: »

My friends did not tell her that or keep watching us.some of them werent friends but people in the pub.

Well in future to make sure other people who have something against you don't screw things up for you when you are with a girl, bring the girl to a more intimate place - like go together lone to a café for a cup of coffee or go to the cinema or go for a walk in the mountains or something. Use your imagination. But the main thing is don't have other people tagging along who can screw it up for you.

they might not have told her i was gay but have done so in the past once or twice .

Well then make sure to avoid them in future and hang out with people who aren't going to stab you in the back.

they acvtually think i am.

Do these people know that gay people generally don't take an interest in the opposite sex?

i shouldnt have met her in the local.

Remember that next time right?

i dissapeared to different friends to get money

Have your money ready before hand.

i should say i have i am pretty sure social anxiety

If you have social anxiety then tell her so that she understands. If she is worth it she will understand.

i apologised on facebook but should have met up for coffee as you say

Meet face to face.

i actually feel quite down about the whole thing. i must be a bit of a sad sack

You are new to this right? Do you learn to ride a bike first time or by giving up because you fell off? There will be other girls and other opportunities so in future you know how not to screw up next time don't you?

i have met her since but dont know if she likes me or not she has since snogged me drunk

Drink might be the problem. You can't think straight when you are drunk and screw things up. So don't drink next time and things should be grand.

Best of luck.