Bit of advice!

LegacyUser

Hi all,

Not looking for medical advice or anything here, but just want to know if people feel the same way as me.

I am a male in my early 20's, doing a masters and generally quite successful. In a relationship with a great girl, and generally, not too much going on in my life that would upset or distress me. I'm quite funny, well spoken and get on with everyone.

He's the problem, I am totally apathetic to everything. I'm no slouch and have accomplished quite alot, but never feel very proud of anything I have achieved. This has gotten worse in the last few years.

I have hobbies friends and good prospects, but I never feel happy. I don't look forward to anything, I don't dread anything either. I feel that emotionally I'm just empty.

I'm not suicidal, but have no fear of death or dying. I feel that engaging in more reckless behaviour would "wake me up", because nothing seems to stimulate me. I can be social when I need to be, and loving with my girlfriend, but I'd rather be on my own 99% of the time. I feel I fake the emotional stuff when I need to.

I don't feel depressed, because I'm never sad. I'm never really anything. I get a kick out of studying hard and working hard, but not anything else. But once I pass an exam, I feel "meh". I did very well this year, but thought "ah, that was no big deal".

Things I used to love don't have the same interest as they used to for me. I made loads of new fiends recently due to moving away for college, but I have no interest in maintaining them. I think I'm phoning in everything- and I just don't care.

One possible reason for this may stem from some disappointments I experienced throughout my life- nothing serious, it's just I went through a few stages of bad luck. I'm long past that stage now, but have come to expect disappointment in my life...

Sorry, I'm rambling now, but I would like to know if I'm the only one who feels like this- I have a good life, but feel no sadness, happiness or any kind of emotions?

Thanks

Herrick

You mention bad luck at times. Do you ever think why should I get excited/happy over something as it will go to pieces eventually?

Roselm

You should probably speak to your GP about this as they may feel you should investigate this further-just in that what you describe doesn't sound entirely "typical" and that it is something you feel you want to change?

LegacyUser

uninterested wrote: »

I don't feel depressed, because I'm never sad.

I'm not offering medical advice but I would like to pick up on this point. Depression isn't necessarily about feeling sad. Sometimes it can be more of a numbness, a feeling of nothingness, like you're just coasting. So it probably would be best to speak to a doctor or professional to see if you can get to the root of this.

Starokan

Two things come to mind, either your very content and balanced and therefore your not prone to dramatic emotion swings or your existing in life but not living it.

Either way a simple change in mindset can help you. You need to get more in touch with your emotions. There is joy to be found all around us, the next time your going out slow down and focus more on whats happening around you, take notice of whats going on, don't just breeze through, take nature walks, go to the beach, interact with people (not just passing pleasantries but engage with them).

Figure out what makes you happy, it may be that although you on the surface have a perfect life it simply is not the life you need.