Girl asking a guy out?????

LegacyUser

I meet a guy out a few weeks ago, we exchanged numbers and were in contact on and off after this just chatting - seems like a nice guy but he's very shy even on the night we met. Now he hasnt talked about meeting up so should I take this as a hint???? Or should I go ahead and ask him out then I know for definite?? Or shoudl I just leave it all alone and move on.

Tigger99

Im a firm believer that even the most shy guy will ask a girl out if he's interested. I'd leave it be op.

stargazer 68

Ask if he fancies going out for a drink some night. You have nothing to lose OP.

P. Breathnach

You don't have much to lose: if you want to give things a chance to develop, ask him out.

LegacyUser

Im a firm believer that even the most shy guy will ask a girl out if he's interested.

+1

Now in saying that I don't believe in having regrets so I'm also the type of girl who would just ask him out anyway, because it would wreck my head wondering what if (and this approach has saved me so much wasted energy!). But in my experience the majority of guys who keep up the texting without asking you out just like the ego boost, and even if you do ask them out and they accept a lot of them just accept because (sadly) they just see it as a chance of an easy lay, so thread carefully.

(But this is just my experience and I don't want to tarnish all men, there are lovely guys out there, just getting a lot harder to find )

But who knows he could be in the minority so just text him and ask, at the end of the day it's not a big deal tbh.

reprazant

Tigger99 wrote: »

Im a firm believer that even the most shy guy will ask a girl out if he's interested. I'd leave it be op.

is that just your way of ensuring that you never have to ask anyone out yourself?

Herrick

Tigger99 wrote: »

Im a firm believer that even the most shy guy will ask a girl out if he's interested. I'd leave it be op.

Sadly not true.

Little Miss Lady

I think you should casually ask him to meet up
Like a coffee or a light lunch
Don't be put off by you having to ask!

Best of luck

Elmidena

Ask him. Worst he'll say is no.

Stavro Mueller

notsure12 wrote: »

Or should I go ahead and ask him out then I know for definite??

I really don't see the harm in knowing where you stand. A yea or a nay will solve this for once and for all. Obviously you'll want a yes but him saying no wouldn't be the end of the world either, would it? Your pride might be a bit wounded but at least you'd not be filling your head with "will he, won't he?" thoughts or "what if...?"

gypsy_rose

notsure12 wrote: »

I meet a guy out a few weeks ago, we exchanged numbers and were in contact on and off after this just chatting - seems like a nice guy but he's very shy even on the night we met. Now he hasnt talked about meeting up so should I take this as a hint???? Or should I go ahead and ask him out then I know for definite?? Or shoudl I just leave it all alone and move on.

Just casually ask him out for a drink and see how it goes. If he declines and doesn't ask for say the day after or next week then you have your answer.

fallen01angel

I can only echo what alot of the other posters have already advised you to do OP, bite the bullet and suggest a casual coffee/drink.If he accepts do a little dance of delight,if he says no,then at least you know and you'll have saved yourself hours of head melt....does he like me/does he not like me. And you can choose whether or not to remain in friendly contact with him.Best of luck OP,hope it goes well.:)