Dating a recovering alcoholic, need advise plssssss

cinamonscent

I hope someone can help me resolve an issue I have, Im in my mid thirties recently started dating a recovering alcoholic in his mid forties, his being attending Al Anon for 6 years and holds his own sponsorship group as well.
I was raised in an alcoholic home, my father eventually died from the disease after a binge lasting weeks. his heart gave up, i was 21, I then went on to date alcoholics for years and lived that rollercoaster life with them,binge drinking myself to excessive points where I would take any man home to bed, looking for some kinda comfort, sex was always mind blowing but felt awful for days r weeks after, one nite stands etc, eventually 5 years ago i decided enough was enough and did my own self help, i needed to find answers to why i was falling for these men who abuse alcohol and me, i only drink now once every few months and theses sessions end up all niters on the drink and prefable taking a man home, I found a new hobbie that i adore and stayed single for the past 3 years and now ive found the most wonderful caring gentle man whos so kind to me and very affectionate, like a said his a recovering alcoholic, we feel we he common ground and when he comes in from a meeting to see me we talk it over and his such a possitive influence on me, now my problem is I dont know how to deal with a recovering alcoholic as im only used to the abusers of it, my problem is the sex, i found a level of intimacy i never experienced before with this man, and now i dont know is sex an issue for them, we communicate so well i dont like to ask as he might feel ive a problem with our sex life, which i do not, i enjoy the closeness, i just dont understand why he doesnt jump on me like the other men.,, feeling very confused, any light would help on this..thanks

Spear

Try the relationship issues forum instead:

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