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Reconciling marriage: how to move it along

  • 13-06-2012 10:08pm
    #1
    Nick Lawson
    Closed Accounts Posts: 52 ✭✭


    Hello all,

    We've been separated for seven months & have made tentative steps towards reconciliation but I am at a more advanced stage than my wife. We attend weekly marriage counselling sessions.

    Although she is kind ( when we're getting on) and says that she loves me, she just can't decide what she wants & hates feeling that way.

    I know it's impossible to "make someone love you" but we've discussed attempting to "break through" this indecision, which has been ongoing for months,through a course, seminar, hypnotherapy or whatever.

    She has said that she feels guilty about what she is doing to me, that I'm a wonderful man & that she doesn't expect to hold me back but wouldn't want to lose me either.

    I am not applying pressure & have told her that I love her. I was previously getting upset and calling / texting frequently but have stopped that.
    However, I'm finding it difficult to cope.

    Can anyone advise on such a course to give my wife the confidence to want to reconcile?


Comments

  • #2
    Idle Passerby
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,130 ✭✭✭Idle Passerby


    I felt I had to respond after reading but I dont have any experience of this kind of problem so not sure how good my advice will be.

    It sounds like she knows you are waiting for her to decide if she wants to continue the marriage. It must be so frustrating waiting for her to answer this question unfortunately you waiting for an answer is not going to hurry along her decision and it sounds like she's stuck in indecision.

    Maybe you need to change your tack, tell her you want to work things out and be together but you cant just sit around waiting for her to make a decision. Give her some space and try not to contact her, the time alone might snap her out of the indecision.


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