What is the overall cost of getting married?

hug0

Hi everyone,

We are just wondering if you go the blessing route, meaning you have to get your marriage license, then have a civil ceremony and then a blessing.

We were quoted 350 for a blessing (crazy!), 150 for the license or appointment to get this license, do
We have to pay again for the civil ceremony? Seems very expensive as it is!

clint_silver

hug0 wrote: »

Hi everyone,

We are just wondering if you go the blessing route, meaning you have to get your marriage license, then have a civil ceremony and then a blessing.

We were quoted 350 for a blessing (crazy!), 150 for the license or appointment to get this license, do
We have to pay again for the civil ceremony? Seems very expensive as it is!

150 for the licence is unavoidable and then however much for a registrar on the day. I think this varies depending on where it is. Your local hse office should advise.

who quoted 350 for the blessing? 250-350 seems to be the going rate for priest in a church so probably higher end of quotes. Either way, that blessing is extra to getting the licence.

Sleepy

We were quoted similar from Tom Colton and while we still have to pay the €150 that's for a legal ceremony rather than just a blessing...

hoodwinked

for us? we are looking at 6k for a church - hotel - big white dress wedding.

hug0

Tom Colton let us down last minute so we have had to look at other options. Do you have to pay for the civil ceremony also?

hoodwinked wrote: »

for us? we are looking at 6k for a church - hotel - big white dress wedding.

clint_silver

hug0 wrote: »

Tom Colton let us down last minute so we have had to look at other options. Do you have to pay for the civil ceremony also?

If you have a ceremony somewhere you have to pay for the registrar to be at it. its usually milage from the registry and a per hour rate with a minimum of a couple of hours.

the 150 is for the registry. if you think its too expensive, dont have it. thats just life.

How did Tom Colton let you down? i thought he had a few working for him.

Sleepy

The civil ceremony is included in the cost of the marriage license afaik.

hoodwinked

hug0 wrote: »

Tom Colton let us down last minute so we have had to look at other options. Do you have to pay for the civil ceremony also?

we're having a church wedding!

hug0

Well done hoodwink you're very helpful, church weddings aren't for everyone!

He promised us one of his celebrants to marry us that would be legal but they have had some complaint put in against them
And there's a hold up now with their papers, worse thing is he is impossible to get through to and we feel we nearly couldn't rely on him to do it!

The whole thing that he is a medium on top of his lack of communication is a put off!

It's such a pity he seems to have the monopoly on the legal non religious ceremonies, there should be more choice on this!!

Ireland is still very backward when it comes to this!! Civil ceremonies can only be performed Monday to Friday as they will not work weekends!!

So on a whole is this the average you would pay for a wedding in a church? Is this the norm?

hoodwinked wrote: »

hug0 wrote: »

Tom Colton let us down last minute so we have had to look at other options. Do you have to pay for the civil ceremony also?

we're having a church wedding!

Sleepy

Would you mind PM'ing me the details of that hug0? It's one of his celebrants we've got booked too.

We'd prefer a civil/humanist ceremony for the same reasons as yourself but want the ceremony to be the legal marriage too.

tatli_lokma

clint_silver wrote: »

150 for the licence is unavoidable and then however much for a registrar on the day. I think this varies depending on where it is. Your local hse office should advise.

clint_silver wrote: »

If you have a ceremony somewhere you have to pay for the registrar to be at it. its usually milage from the registry and a per hour rate with a minimum of a couple of hours.
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From my recollection €150 covered registering the intent to marry and the actual ceremony, not just the licence. If you have a civil ceremony in the registry office there is no other charge. If you have it outside the registry office, there is no hourly rate (well there wasn't when I got married) but you do pay a fixed rate for outside of the registry and mileage, so check what registrar is closest to the venue (A friend of mine didn't realise this and originally booked via Dublin when her wedding was in Wicklow. Was going to cost a fortune in mileage, but she managed to change it to Wicklow registrar and cost bugger all). I think all in all, for the legal side, outside fees and mileage our ceremony came to just under €300. The rental of the venue was €200. But the church wanted €400 (plus the €150 legal fees) so we were still better off by about €70. And we didn't have to pay for a premarriage course, so more money saved!