Condom trouble

LegacyUser

Hi there,

Bit of an embarrassing situation for me (male, 25, in very good health).
Have been seeing a girl for a while now, and we have been getting on in the bedroom to a good degree. Although when it does come to penatrative sex it kinda goes down hill.

I am all for condoms and the use of them, believe me, can hardly mind myself not to mind a little sprog.

I had been single for a very long time up to this point. About a year and a half. In that time I only had one sexual encounter and that was with an ex ( an error but we always had good sex, she is on the pill and we did have sex unprotected) No problems in maintaining an erection or performance in this case.

Fast forward to now, with the new girl. and because it is a new relationship and we are still getting to know each other and the fact she is not on the pill means that condoms are a necessity. Which I do not have a problem with at all.

The thing is though, when we go to put the condom on it will pass the "head" and then it becomes very hard to roll the condom back further.Its really annoying as it leads me to loosing my erection and confidence. The ring also feels quite tight on the base of the penis.
They were the normal Durex condoms.

But young love and heightened bedroom antics one night led us astray, and we did have penetrative sex (Lacking a condom which is a majorly idiotic move) but it was amazing, I wont be doing that again though.

I really really like this girl and Im afraid that if this continues it might put undue pressure on the relationship. I know there are other activities to partake in and they have been used, much to her delight. I just dont know how to combat this, and i dont want to force her on to the pill or anything like that as it would be unfair if the condom situation can be fixed.

PerrDub

Not being smart but sounds like you may be putting the condom on the wrong way!
When you open a condom, you see the edge is rolled - that is supposed to be on the outside. That will roll up when you put the condom on. Remember to hold the tip as you roll the condom up.

The Lovely Muffin

Have you tried different size/type condoms OP?

Regarding contraception - condoms on their own aren't enough to prevent pregnancy and the pill certainly isn't.

If it was at all possible to use both the pill and condoms, I would be going for that method.

I do think that if yourself and your girlfriend aren't ready/don't want kids at the moment that maybe it might be an idea for you both to look at different methods of contraception, maybe even ask your girlfriend to speak to her GP and see if he can suggest a contraceptive for her, there are various methods, she doesn't have to take the pill, she could go for any type, that is if they are suitable for her.

http://www.irishhealth.com/article.html?id=523

LegacyUser

Hi,

Haha, no its going on the right way!

As for larger sizes, no, I haven't. Purely because, well I don't want to find the condoms are like a loose sock on.

ted1

sounds like you may be putting them on backwards. or else you may need a larger size.

Mousewar

You also might want to get in a bit of practice by yourself. It'll take the pressure off until you figure out what the hell you're doing. Then you'll be able to lash the thing on like lightening when with the gf.

leeroybrown

It sounds like you're larger (wider) than average. Getting larger condoms in Irish shops can be a bit of a pain but they are available. Buy some and try putting different ones on to find one that fits and you're comfortable with.

There was a useful thread about this not too long ago. I'll find it for you.

Edit: Can't find it but if you search you'll spot similar ones.

Roselm

leeroybrown wrote: »

It sounds like you're larger (wider) than average. Getting larger condoms in Irish shops can be a bit of a pain but they are available. Buy some and try putting different ones on to find one that fits and you're comfortable with.

There was a useful thread about this not too long ago. I'll find it for you.

Edit: Can't find it but if you search you'll spot similar ones.

On that thread, that you can't find but I also remember, someone said how they order larger sized condoms online-no hassle and discreet packaging.

blatantrereg

Durex Elite (purple box) and Fetherlite (red box) are 'easy on', which are wider than the straight condoms. The red boxes of Mates also were flared and wider, last time I looked.

Taltos

OP - please clarify what advice you are seeking here.
Your response to the suggestion about trying larger sizes would indicate that the PI forum is not the right place for this thread.

Can I remind other posters to please don't link to other threads especially those in PI/RI.
OP - please review this resource as provided by one of the other mods.

Taltos