beer goggles kiss

LegacyUser

I met a guy at the weekend and had a nice wee kiss. I was after a few drinks...we said little as it was noisy, end of night, and I was sharing a taxi home so I didn't hang about. I felt there was an attraction for both of us. But....having exchanged numbers his spelling is atrocious. To a point it is really turning me off. Not only that but he is asking such childish questions and somewhat silly comments. I can only understand some of his texts. I'm no einstein but it's all a turn off. Maybe cause he is not my usual type. Yet there is a part of me wanting to meet him again minus my beer goggles just to be sure. Or should I go with my gut and stop waisting both our time?

xzanti

What have you got to lose? I'm assuming you're both single? It sounds like he's interested if he's texting you..

Lots of people use 'txt spk' when texting people, doesn't mean they're not intelligent.. I'd give him the benefit of the doubt..

My 2 cents.

SunnyDub1

try find him on Facebook and check out his pics then decide from there

daisybelle2008

do i, don't I wrote: »

Or should I go with my gut and stop waisting both our time?

Go with your gut, why wouldn't you trust that. Believe me it is always right. Never doubt it or second guess it. Atrocious text speak, childish questions and moronic comments in early texts, seriously why would you bother?
You are finding it a turn-off already so why would you totally ignore your instinct? It is there for a reason.

ihsb

You don't know... he could be dyslexic. That doesn't mean that he isn't clever, just that he finds stringing words together and spelling a bit harder then most people. If you feel that there was a connection, see where it goes. Maybe make a habit of ringing each other rather then both of you getting frustrated by texting.

stargazer 68

do i, don't I wrote: »

Or should I go with my gut and stop waisting both our time?

Everyone makes mistakes when typing!!

But as Xzanti says lots of people use text speak etc when texting (which I hate) but anyway - meeting the guy for a drink and talking in person wont do any harm.

ash23

I can't see what harm it would do to meet him again and see how you get on in real life as opposed to via text.
A lot of guys I've dated have been rubbish at texting and fine to talk to.

NoQuarter

If you sent me that post as an e-mail, I would be thinking the same about you. Your spelling and grammar are also appaling! Do you think that is a bit harsh? Because it is really.

Give him a chance or just find him on facebook and then decide.

aidan24326

You've nothing to lose by meeting him for a drink or for lunch or something. Then you'll know pretty quickly whether he's your type or not. But as daisybelle said your gut instinct is usually worth heeding and if it's giving you negative vibes then maybe you're better to leave it be.

Kooli

I'd be on the 'go with your gut' team.
You don't sound like you're really that into him, and there's nothing wrong with that - why try and force it?

Green Gelato

I'd say no harm in meeting him once, wearing slightly smaller beer goggles, and see how it goes from there. You'll probably have a better idea by the second meeting anyway.

I know what you mean about the texting - I find lazy spelling and text speak a bit of a turn off too - but the reality is most people seem to do it so I wouldn't let it put you off....yet. He might not be aware that it's annoying.

He might just need a bit of training - give him a chance and see how you feel.;)

LegacyUser

I make spelling errors myself, we all do. But he is making so many...

He is not abbreviating words on text, it's his spelling. The grammar and questions he asks is another story.

To name a few...

worry....worrie
too..... two
already....all ready
explain...explaine
tonight....tonite
know.....no

LegacyUser

Thank you Sunflower. )))

I have decided to meet him again:)

Katgurl

do i, don't I wrote: »

I make spelling errors myself, we all do. But he is making so many...

He is not abbreviating words on text, it's his spelling. The grammar and questions he asks is another story.

To name a few...

worry....worrie
too..... two
already....all ready
explain...explaine
tonight....tonite
know.....no

Two of my friends (who are sisters) write like this, they're dyslexic. I'd known them for years, really funny, smart, quick-witted. The first time I got an email from one of them I nearly passed out. Give him a shot. On the flipside, i've become enamoured with blokes via email and found them lacking in person.

rainbows7

NoQuarter wrote: »

If you sent me that post as an e-mail, I would be thinking the same about you. Your spelling and grammar are also appaling! Do you think that is a bit harsh? Because it is really.

NoQuarter - Watch your own spelling, before criticising others!!

OP - I agree with giving him another try

NoQuarter

hazel111 wrote: »

NoQuarter wrote: »

If you sent me that post as an e-mail, I would be thinking the same about you. Your spelling and grammar are also appaling! Do you think that is a bit harsh? Because it is really.

NoQuarter - Watch your own spelling, before criticising others!!

OP - I agree with giving him another try

You criticise me and not the OP! Ha!

I proved my own point anyway, we all make mistakes, give him another chance is what I said!

Taltos

Hazel111 & NoQuarter - this is not a competition - warnings/infractions & bans have been issued for less on this forum.

Please review our charter again - if you cannot post within these guidelines then consider not posting at all.
Otherwise you are only going to earn yourselves some or all of the above.

Regards
Taltos

Cork Lass

do i, don't I wrote: »

I make spelling errors myself, we all do. But he is making so many...

He is not abbreviating words on text, it's his spelling. The grammar and questions he asks is another story.

To name a few...

worry....worrie
too..... two
already....all ready
explain...explaine
tonight....tonite
know.....no

I think you're being very picky here. Give the guy a break, reading your original post - you're far from perfect yourself.

LegacyUser

Maybe I'm a bad speller but I can't see any mistakes in the OPs post but anyway I think its good to give him a chance by meeting again. As has been said he may be dyslexic but that doesn't mean a lack of intelligence or even charm!

xsiborg

do i, don't I wrote: »

I make spelling errors myself, we all do. But he is making so many...

He is not abbreviating words on text, it's his spelling. The grammar and questions he asks is another story.

To name a few...

worry....worrie
too..... two
already....all ready
explain...explaine
tonight....tonite
know.....no

OP there's a poster on boards who i know is dysexic and deciphering their posts sometimes would give a cryptographer a headache, but once you get past the spelling and grammar (in fairness he does make an effort!) you can see that this person is just like anyone else really.

in fairness though if this annoys you, it's not going to get any better any time soon, you'd be better off leaving it as it seems it's just one of those things that is increasingly going to get on your nerves and you'll end up tormenting yourself and resenting the guy anyway.

i've been put off girls for less so i dont see how this would be any different, they might float your boat in every other way, but then there's that little niggle that just puts you off, and no, im not perfect myself, but that doesnt mean i should settle for what im not happy with either, in the very same way as im sure that person with dyslexia may for example not be attracted to blonde girls, etc.

LegacyUser

OP here again...

Thanks for all your replies.
I didn't end up meeting him as he ended up being extremely childish, even more so. Forget the spellings, it was what he was saying, asked etc.
I asked him the other night when we were meant to meet "So are you okay for tonight?" to which he replied "You don't sound keen", which annoyed me,when I just wanted an answer. Text me 3 times asking do my friends like him... (they met him for 20 mins and hardly spoke to him). Asked me "what soaps do I watch?" (sorry but that's cringe coming from a man, no offence to men that watch soaps). "Do you like me?" (I was with him for half an hour and he texts asking this... It came to a point where everything he said/asked on text annoyed me. He never answered me directly whether we were meeting or not that night, so when he text asking later, I said no because I would need notice. He then accused me for playing games with him, leading him on, oh and that he cancelled another date because of me adding "thanks a lot". !!! He sent about 4 texts messages in a row, repeating himself, incorrect grammar all over the place... getting quite cross towards me!! I was thinking wtf. I was so glad I cancelled, as his true colours were showing...told me have a good life!

He then text 2 days later saying "were you out last night?", I said no, he says " awh you're a bit distant from me, can we try again, as I want to meet you, do you still want to meet me". Which I replied "No, I think it's best we don't" and wished him the best. He then attacked again... " I take back being nice to you, no skin off my nose as there are plenty of other women out there haha and I thought you could be the one "

What a painful experience!! Note: I corrected his spellings so it was readable for you..

Lux23

I think I met this guy too! Sounds very familiar.

xsiborg

beer goggles kiss wrote: »

OP here again...

What a painful experience!! Note: I corrected his spellings so it was readable for you..

jesus h christ OP. sounds like you'd a lucky escape to be honest!

Taltos

OP - as this has come to a close and you have your answer I am going to proceed and close this thread.

All the best,
Taltos