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Frustrating

  • 11-06-2012 9:38pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I have this issue where I feel I have to correct my siblings a lot. I feel they say the wrong thing to people, reveal too much personal details about our family to others that aren't close, put too much on facebook. It's all wrecking my head. They trust people so easily. I try to highlight it to them, but it comes across in a nagging manner. They are mature, so maybe the issue comes back at me for not accepting who they are. As I can't change them, yet I continue to try. I wish I could accept them but I struggle. I just wish they were aware of people and not to be so trusting. Not that I'm perfect by any means. It's all exhausting.


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  • #2
    SunnyDub1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,439 ✭✭✭SunnyDub1


    If they are growing adults then it's their choice what the wish to share and tell other people. Might not always be the right choice but thats their problem.
    Just cause a person maybe not very trustworthy to you doesn't mean they are not trustworthy to everyone else.
    If the information they are sharing doesn't involve you then I don't see it been any of your concern and there is nothing you can really do to stop them tbh.


  • #3
    daisybelle2008
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,403 ✭✭✭daisybelle2008


    frustring fam wrote: »

    I wish I could accept them but I struggle.
    I just wish they were aware of people and not to be so trusting.
    .

    They are aware of people, they just don't share your negative view of them.

    Maybe you could learn a little from them. Some people just are happy enough to be themselves and be more open in front of people. It is usually because they accept themselves and are not afraid of being judged because they don't give a damn about negative peoples judgements.

    Maybe look at your need to be distrustful. Is it becuase you do not have confidence to be yourself? You are displaying some of the traits you are trying to warn them about in other people. Lack of acceptance of other people and judging their behaviour are just reflections of your own insecurity.


  • #4
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 3,505 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    If they've been revealing their own business, then that is in fact their own business. They can say whatever they want to.

    If they've been revealing your business, against your wishes, then stop telling them your business.

    You're their sibling, not their parent. Unless you have some sort of legal guardianship over them, you're in no position to tell them what to do.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks for your feedback. You are right. I will take all of your advice on board.


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