flirting? driving me crazy

LegacyUser

Hey guys, i'm in a situation and it's driving me crazy, I keep analyzing it in my head over and over again.

There is this local garda in my area, she is very young and very pretty,I really like her, The thing is I think she might like me to. She is very flirty with me and a lot of different friends have mentioned it to me.. I can't describe it but when I am talkin to her I get a vibe from her or somthing..

Anyway, The other night me and my father were at my car off loading a bit of luggage from the boot, she stopped her patrol car right beside us and the first thing she said was ''is this where you live and is that your father'' with a little cheeky smile..

Then that very same night I was out with some friends and there was a fight in one of the estates so being nosey we were waiting to see wat was happening,, Anyway when everything was sorted this gardai left her collegues talkin to the ambulance driver and came toward my car. She did a u-turn right next to me and stopped and said '' Hey buddy, we meet again, what u waiting there for?'' i replied i'm just waiting to go through the estate'' she replied '' I think you just waiting to see me'' and then drove off



It's hard to describe it here but if it was any other girl i'd say she was flirting with me. wats do u guys think?

Paco Rodriguez

Hi oP

Im a guy that is slow to catch on when girls flirt....but I think your case its pretty clear. You should ask her out next time you are talking.

Taltos

OP - just ask her if she would like to meet up next time she is off duty.

Last thing you need is some numpty reporting her for behaviour ill befitting the uniform. It is clear she likes you or at least is enjoying the banter so just ask her out and find out one way or another.

Just don't ask to see her out of uniform - bit too obvious and crass...

Taco Corp

If you think you would regret not asking then you should ask. What's the worst that can happen? She says no. In most cases, it's easier to get over a "no" then the regret of not asking and wondering what might have been.

baldbear

Go for it! The next time you say hello just ask if shed like to meet up for cofee/beer anytime. Don't make any " I have a truncheon at home" type jokes!;-)

I am a friend

Do you know her outside of these incidents or is this the only contact you ever have had with her?

LegacyUser

I am a friend wrote: »

Do you know her outside of these incidents or is this the only contact you ever have had with her?

Thanks for the replies guys..

This is the only contact I have had with her. I am extremely shy but it would be fairly obvious to her that I feel the same way.. my father and friends all commented on it. I have been stopped by loads of police in my time and I have never had one act like that towards me..

The main reason I didnt think anything of it is because I am quite young (20) but i suppose she wouldnt be that older than me either..

Big Bag of Chips

drivingmecrazy wrote: »

...if it was any other girl i'd say she was flirting with me....

So why not say that this girl is flirting with you? Why is the fact that she is a guard even relevant? Does she intimidate you or something?

If you like her, just ask her out sometime. If you meet her out why not just sit and chat with her. Swap numbers, whatever?!

If you don't ask her your head will be wrecked thinking what if.

LegacyUser

Big Bag of Chips wrote: »

So why not say that this girl is flirting with you? Why is the fact that she is a guard even relevant? Does she intimidate you or something?

If you like her, just ask her out sometime. If you meet her out why not just sit and chat with her. Swap numbers, whatever?!

If you don't ask her your head will be wrecked thinking what if.

My head is already wrecked, I have went over it again and again and now i'm just hoping that i will see her again soon..

mood

OP only as her out if you see her when she is off duty.

Out of interest do you know her form when she is off duty or on duty?

Big Bag of Chips

Why does it matter if she is off duty or on duty when he asks her out?

I'm genuinely asking that question by the way, is there some reason he shouldn't ask her out when she is working? Especially as he has now said, it's his only contact with her.

OP, I think, if you like her, ask her. If she says no, at least your head isn't wrecked anymore. If she says yes... Happy days!

LegacyUser

mood wrote: »

OP only as her out if you see her when she is off duty.

Out of interest do you know her form when she is off duty or on duty?

As I said I only know her from being on duty in the local area..

Big Bag of Chips wrote: »

OP, I think, if you like her, ask her. If she says no, at least your head isn't wrecked anymore. If she says yes... Happy days!

I think your right mate, I am kicking myself for not having a longer talk with her the other night but sure nothin I can do bout it now

Stench Blossoms

Big Bag of Chips wrote: »

Why does it matter if she is off duty or on duty when he asks her out?

I'm genuinely asking that question by the way, is there some reason he shouldn't ask her out when she is working? Especially as he has now said, it's his only contact with her.

OP, I think, if you like her, ask her. If she says no, at least your head isn't wrecked anymore. If she says yes... Happy days!

Yeh I don't think it matters if its on or off duty when he asks.

I've had them ask me out while they were on duty

I am a friend

Do you know her name? Does she know yours? can you call the station and ask for her to call you?

LegacyUser

I am a friend wrote: »

Do you know her name? Does she know yours? can you call the station and ask for her to call you?

I do know her name and she is well aware of mine and where i love apparently lol she actually stopped my friend today and was askin a few questions about me. I'm sure ill see her around. I'd rather see her in person than phone the police station..

gerryk

Are you sure you're not being staked out? Maybe you're a suspect and she's gathering evidence.

marzic

Please dude, be a cool motherfcuker and be cool... you are not imaging this by the sounds of it. I know you have to learn for yourself but please take the advise of people who, if they were like me at your age, didnt read the very obvious signs and man the fcuk up and make a move. Best of!
marzic:cool:

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leggo

Just hint towards it next time you see her and see how she reacts. If she's still lively and flirty, then go for it. If her demeanour changes, then she's just being friendly now and will stop leading you on. Either way, she seems confident and in control of the situation, so she'll likely direct you either way once you push the issue.

"Are you always working? I never see you out and about. Your fella must think it's great having a Garda for a girlfriend..." etc etc. Any old waffle like that will do. It allows her to give you the okay to ask her out or let you down gently. I'm not a fan of just jumping in the deep end with the whole, "Would you like to go for a drink sometime?", mid-conversation, personally. It's a bit needy and rom-com imo.

Pad it out, lead the conversation in that direction, and if she likes you she'll make it easy for you. And good luck.

RandolphEsq

Taltos wrote: »

OP - just ask her if she would like to meet up next time she is off duty.

Last thing you need is some numpty reporting her for behaviour ill befitting the uniform. It is clear she likes you or at least is enjoying the banter so just ask her out and find out one way or another.

Just don't ask to see her out of uniform - bit too obvious and crass...

I disagree, given the banter you have been having that is exactly how you should ask her out.

Carson10

If you see her again, you should just ask her what pub/clubs she goes to when shes off duty or when is she out next. If your shy this will be a lot easier for you and if you just meet her in the pub at least for the first time, you'l have your mates and so will she and you'l see what vibe you get off her.

Also if shes young, she prob doesnt live anywhere near where she is stationed. Usually about 2 hours away id say and she wont socialise in the town where shes on duty etc...

good luck op.

Foggy.nelson

Say are you always working I never see you anywhere else? A great way to start converse

Taltos

As the OP has not been back in nearly a month I am closing this thread.

Taltos