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He's so shy!

  • 04-06-2012 3:54pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I've just started seeing a new guy in the last two weeks. He's really nice and I know that he has liked me for a long time.
    The problem is that he's just so shy! I have had a good bit of experience with men, but all of these guys were much more confident, flirty and maybe a bit bossy. This is such a change for me that I don't quite know how to act around him. Any time we have met up he acts really nervous, and when we text it's a bit.... well, boring.
    I try to flirt a little when texting but he doesn't really reciprocate and keeps turning the conversation back to boring day to day stuff. In the end I end up not even texting back because I litterally have run out of things to say. It's not easy to hold a conversation through text with him at all. I know he likes texting as well so I don't think that's the issue.

    I have to make the first move everytime we kiss because I know he's too nervous. Once he gets into it then it's ok.
    I'm a bit worried about when we get to the point of having sex. I don't want to have to totally initiate that as well and I have a feeling sex might be akward if he's shy about it. I think he's fairly inexperienced with girls.
    I'm quite a forward girl and I don't want to scare him away either, but it seems like I have to be forward or else end up waiting around forever for him to make a move. We only got together because I made a move on him, even though he has liked me since we were in school.
    We are both 22 by the way. Any advice is appriciated because I really like him!


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  • #2
    Joshua J
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,305 ✭✭✭Joshua J


    Ah it's only been a couple of weeks, give him a bit of time to come out of his shell. Some of us guys ain't so great at reading the "come and get it" signs but I'd imagine the more time ye spend together the more you'll be able to read each other. Early days.


  • #3
    Herrick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 903 ✭✭✭Herrick


    Ah give him a bit of time. He probaly doesn't have much experience so is nervous and to add to it seeing as he liked you for so long he's probaly afraid of doing something to mess up and put you off him. Once he gets more comfortable around you, he'll be swimming :)

    What kind of dates have you had? Just drinks and the like? I'd recommended doing some sort of fun activity together. That way, there will be less focus on the nerves and by having fun together his shyness may ease.

    Stuff like bowling or air hockey I've always found are great :D


  • #4
    snafuk35
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 833 ✭✭✭snafuk35


    UnfamiliarSituation wrote: »
    I've just started seeing a new guy in the last two weeks. He's really nice and I know that he has liked me for a long time.
    The problem is that he's just so shy! I have had a good bit of experience with men, but all of these guys were much more confident, flirty and maybe a bit bossy. This is such a change for me that I don't quite know how to act around him. Any time we have met up he acts really nervous, and when we text it's a bit.... well, boring.
    I try to flirt a little when texting but he doesn't really reciprocate and keeps turning the conversation back to boring day to day stuff. In the end I end up not even texting back because I litterally have run out of things to say. It's not easy to hold a conversation through text with him at all. I know he likes texting as well so I don't think that's the issue.

    I have to make the first move everytime we kiss because I know he's too nervous. Once he gets into it then it's ok.
    I'm a bit worried about when we get to the point of having sex. I don't want to have to totally initiate that as well and I have a feeling sex might be akward if he's shy about it. I think he's fairly inexperienced with girls.
    I'm quite a forward girl and I don't want to scare him away either, but it seems like I have to be forward or else end up waiting around forever for him to make a move. We only got together because I made a move on him, even though he has liked me since we were in school.
    We are both 22 by the way. Any advice is appriciated because I really like him!

    It's summer so that means you could go to the beach for the day and go swimming or sunbathe so that he can get comfortable wearing just a pair of togs in front of you and being close to while you are wearing just a bikini. You could get him to rub on your suntan lotion and you could rub on his lotion. That way he would get comfortable being more intimate with you when it comes to sex later on in your relationship. It wouldn't hurt for him to accidentally on purpose get a view of what he is missing if you let your towel slip just a little when you are changing.
    If he is red blooded at all he is sure to take the bait.


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