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Advice for asking someone out

  • 02-06-2012 8:02pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi all,

    So there's a guy I like, we met through work (but have both since left the company) and have always got on well. We went out together recently just as friends and I thought there may have been a spark - some light flirting and touching etc.

    We've spoken once or twice since but nothing has come of it, so I'm not sure if it was just the alcohol on his part or if he's actually interested. He's very happy-go-lucky and affectionate by nature so I can't be sure if the treatment I got was any different to his other female friends.

    I'd really like something to happen but am horribly inexperienced in the art of asking someone out. And also terrified of getting rejected, of course.

    So, how should I go about 1) determining if he's interested or not and 2) asking the dreaded question?


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  • #2
    _dublinlad_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 243 ✭✭_dublinlad_


    There is no way of determining if he is definately interested - there are alot of signs you can pick up on, but each relationship between two people is different - so signs can be misinterpreted.

    The risk of rejection is part of life. Its something you will have to learn to deal with. Maybe ask him to a gig of a band he likes or to a comedy gig (great for first dates)..


  • #3
    snafuk35
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 833 ✭✭✭snafuk35


    Next time you see him say that you think you both should go to a movie if he wants to. If he says no, so what? His loss! If he says yes then just arrange to meet and there you go. If he is not sure, then mockingly ask him if has another woman and he is sure to take the hint and agree to go.:D If you had fun with him and you thought there was a spark he probably noticed it too so there is a good likelihood he will agree. What have you got to lose? If he says no he would have to be an idiot.
    Instead of dreading asking him out think of what will happen when you both get together?


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