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Worried

  • 01-06-2012 3:28pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I recently discovered that an eldery relative's savings are nearly gone. He had about €90,000 plus in his account 5 years ago. He told me that last week he has only €1600 left. His family are grown up but he is supporting 3 of his children financially. One is on benefits, one is not working and not getting any benefits and the other should be able to support themselves but doesn't. His family is very volatile with alot of alcohol issues. Very worried about him and he has seemed to have given up at this stage. If the family knew that I know about his finances it would not be very pleasant. Anyone had similar experiences of this happening.


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  • #2
    thefeatheredcat
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,282 ✭✭✭thefeatheredcat


    Have you spoken to other family members (not his children) about your concerns OP?

    I don't have experience in this and I'm not even sure if this organisation can help you in any way but perhaps there is someone you could talk to or look for information through Alone http://alone.ie/ If you can talk to someone there they might be able to offer advice on what to do or at least hear your concerns if you are worried and have nobody to really talk this out with


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks for replying. I have told another member of the family and they are afraid to say anything in case they take it out on the elderly gentleman. It's a horrible situation to be in as I am the only person he confides in as to whats happening. He was under a lot of pressure to transfer his property but he has held tough thankfully. He is a very proud man and it is very hard to see everything he worked for gone. There is alot of elder abuse thats not being reported and it should be highlighted. I will contact Alone to talk to them. Thanks again for reading this.


  • #4
    thefeatheredcat
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,282 ✭✭✭thefeatheredcat


    Well I hope they can offer some more advice... you may be his sound board to his worries rather than a way to do something about the situation but there is no harm in getting advice or support on what to do with the information that is worrying you. Chances are he may not be keen to make an issue out of it, perhaps he doesn't know what to do and I think a little caution with the family should be reserved.


  • #5
    cutymonalisa
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 277 ✭✭cutymonalisa


    Elder abuse is so common yet often goes unrecognised OP. Have a look through the following and please consider contacting your local health centre who may be able to put you in contact with an elder abuse social worker for advice:

    http://www.hse.ie/eng/services/Find_a_Service/Older_People_Services/Elder_Abuse/


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