college and boyfriend

LegacyUser

hi guys just wanted to get peoples comments on this because i dont know what to do

been with bf 7years everything good .wer from diff parts of country but staying with his parents 3 to 4 days a week for the past 9 months , due to college and not been able to afford rent in dub ,

i have been offered a college place in another city about 2 hours away from him , he didnt get accepted into his course in dub , so he decided he would move with me and try get a place in the college where im going too. he gets called for a interview in other dub college and secured a place , but im not sure on what to do now , i want to do my course but i dont want to be apart from him , and i dont want him to not accept his course to come with me.

has anybody got any opinions what how to work around this

thanks

SunnyDub1

Education should come first IMO, fair play for not letting him turn down his opportunity at college. Plenty of people in your situation.

Am I correct by saying his college (he got accept to) and your college are 2 hrs apart ? If so , it's not to bad , you can travel back and forth and still see each other at weekends surly ? Also plenty of mid term breaks, study weeks, etc you can spend with each other.

It might be no harm that both of you are studying in separate places, gives time to focus 100% on studies and appreciate and really look forward the time you have with your boyf at weekend etc.

Remember it's only short term it's not for the rest of your life. It can easily be done.

jubella

I'm in the same situation starting in sept, OP. I'm starting work placement in Dulbin, and my boyfriend will be going to college in Cork. At first I was dreading the thought of it, because we spend so much time together, but then I realised that we're still going to see each other every weekend. That's still a lot!

I think once you get into it you'll find that it's not actually that bad, it just seems it now because you're so used to seeing him so often. As long as you both make the effort to see each other on weekends then it should be fine.

LegacyUser

hi sunny dub sorry yes there 2 hours apart from each-other , i will more then likely working at weekends in my home town and he will be doing the same in his home town so it will make it difficult to find time for each other, we both lived together for 2 years while we were in college before and did not effect our studies, we have talked about it but we still Havant made a decision yet , as we not want one to sacrifice their college place. thanks for reply

hi julla , ya we spend about 5 days a week together so it will be a big change if we dont see each other that often , im worried about how it will effect our rship also, for our first 3 years of it we only seen every few weeks which worked out fine for us but the last 4 years we have been together 4,5 days a week . thanks for your reply

Il be seeing him next week so we will talk more about it then if any decisions are made il update , thanks

P. Breathnach

If it's for a year, I think you should be able to manage it. The long-term financial and psychological rewards of your qualifications should compensate you both for the much-reduced contact. And do remember that the college year is 25-30 weeks, not 52.

If you are both embarking on programmes that last more than a year, you might have to have a major discussion on your priorities, and how to arrange life so as to give you opportunities to be together.