So scared of my first lesson

Whippersnapper

I've booked my first lesson after 10 years of burying my head in the sand. I'm petrified at the thought of being in a driver seat while someone tells me what to do. I am really bad at one on one tuition in most things. My mind just fizzles over when I try to follow an instruction while someone is watching me. I just can't do it. If that person leaves me and allows me to try it at my own pace I gain confidence and can learn perfectly but once someone is paying any attention to what I'm doing I get a rush of adrenaline and can't focus. The more I try to focus the worse it gets. I know I'm going to get hugely embarrassed at every little mistake I make and then get frustrated with myself for not being able to do it. I know it's impossible to learn to drive on your own but I can see myself getting so frustrated with myself. I genuinely feel that I won't be able to drive. It looks so complicated and the rules seem complex. I'm not afraid of driving, I'm afraid of being being rubbish.

Seriously considering cancelling the lesson as I don't feel ready for it.

Has anyone else experienced anything like this before?

Alanstrainor

You'll never feel ready for it at this stage. You just have to do it, no matter what happens it will be for the better. No one can perform their best when their boss is looking over your shoulder, but this really isn't like that. They are there to instruct you, not to judge you. You will be taken through everything, and you will end up driving. You just have to go and do it at the end of the day, I can guarantee that you will feel far worse not doing it, than you will do it.

You may not get some things straight away, lets face it, not many people get much on their first lesson. You will make mistakes, but you'll build on them.

Best of luck!

foreversky

Whippersnapper wrote: »

I've booked my first lesson after 10 years of burying my head in the sand. I'm petrified at the thought of being in a driver seat while someone tells me what to do. I am really bad at one on one tuition in most things. My mind just fizzles over when I try to follow an instruction while someone is watching me. I just can't do it. If that person leaves me and allows me to try it at my own pace I gain confidence and can learn perfectly but once someone is paying any attention to what I'm doing I get a rush of adrenaline and can't focus. The more I try to focus the worse it gets. I know I'm going to get hugely embarrassed at every little mistake I make and then get frustrated with myself for not being able to do it. I know it's impossible to learn to drive on your own but I can see myself getting so frustrated with myself. I genuinely feel that I won't be able to drive. It looks so complicated and the rules seem complex. I'm not afraid of driving, I'm afraid of being being rubbish.

Seriously considering cancelling the lesson as I don't feel ready for it.

Has anyone else experienced anything like this before?

you are not alone:)

i dread doing test next year.fingers crossed i pass my theory test.:rolleyes:hate the thought of some telling what im doing wrong.even if it is there job.hate the thought of my brother,sister,aunt telling me my dad il be a nervous wreck when im finished.il be in a field when first starting.like how to go forward ,change gears etc then the road.the joys of living in the country.

u just have relaxe;) and take ur time so ive been told alot:mad:
maybe do some more practicing first with someone if u can.

jmc1243

I felt the same with my first lesson, but the instructor was lovely and instructing me not in a condescending and 'telling me what to do' way but more like encouraging. it was a bit nerve wrecking knowing he was watching my every move but i relaxed after a bit and it was fine.

ADIDriving

Whippersnapper wrote: »

I've booked my first lesson after 10 years of burying my head in the sand.
Well Done. Be pleased thet you have got that done.
I'm petrified at the thought of being in a driver seat while someone tells me what to do. I am really bad at one on one tuition in most things. My mind just fizzles over when I try to follow an instruction while someone is watching me. I just can't do it.
Generally your instructor will be good at these situations and will be used to petrified learners.
If that person leaves me and allows me to try it at my own pace I gain confidence and can learn perfectly but once someone is paying any attention to what I'm doing I get a rush of adrenaline and can't focus. The more I try to focus the worse it gets.
After the initial information is passed over you, the lessons will progress towards driving without imput from the instructor.
I know I'm going to get hugely embarrassed at every little mistake I make and then get frustrated with myself for not being able to do it.
Your instructor will have seen every mistake before a million time. It is just a part of learning.
I know it's impossible to learn to drive on your own but I can see myself getting so frustrated with myself.
With all due respect....tough.
I genuinely feel that I won't be able to drive. It looks so complicated and the rules seem complex.
Yes, you will be able to drive.
I'm not afraid of driving, I'm afraid of being being rubbish.
It is not easy. It does take time. give it a chance.
Seriously considering cancelling the lesson as I don't feel ready for it.
Don't!
Has anyone else experienced anything like this before?

Ask to have an early lesson where you just drive. You need to get through some basics first. But if you take a long drive. You get to see what you can achieve. Enjoy.