Prevent myself getting hurt...

LegacyUser

So I was out one night two weeks ago and for the first time ever I went home with a guy I met that night.

Since then I have met him a few times. He seems like a really nice guy, and I am starting to really like him. I can honestly say even more so than when I first met my previous other halves!

However, he's heading abroad for work for god knows how long, but at least a year. I'm thinking I should just leave it now, I have the text written out to end it but I can't send it!:( Usually I would just see where it goes but I know I have really strong feelings for him already, and ending it now will prevent me from getting hurt?

I can't tell what way he's thinking, and it's too early to have a chat about where we are going...but he obviously know he is going too and yet he's giving it a go. (There hasn't been any thing more than a kiss since)

I just don't know....:( Any advice appreciated.

snafuk35

confusedgirl12345 wrote: »

So I was out one night two weeks ago and for the first time ever I went home with a guy I met that night.

Since then I have met him a few times. He seems like a really nice guy, and I am starting to really like him. I can honestly say even more so than when I first met my previous other halves!

However, he's heading abroad for work for god knows how long, but at least a year. I'm thinking I should just leave it now, I have the text written out to end it but I can't send it!:( Usually I would just see where it goes but I know I have really strong feelings for him already, and ending it now will prevent me from getting hurt?

I can't tell what way he's thinking, and it's too early to have a chat about where we are going...but he obviously know he is going too and yet he's giving it a go. (There hasn't been any thing more than a kiss since)

I just don't know....:( Any advice appreciated.

There's no way to avoid being hurt. You met a nice guy and you have feelings for him. So if you end it now you are going to be hurt. If you end it without tellling him how you feel before he goes away you are going to be hurt. If you tell him how you feel and he doesn't feel the same way you are going to be hurt. If you want to be with him and you tell him how you feel and things work out isn't that worth risking being hurt?
Being hurt goes with the territory.

Cullen82

How do you know he's not considering staying for you?

Ask him how he sees it and tell him how you feel. Don't end it this way.

Mr Bump

Young lady, tell him how you feel, if he feels the same he might just stay at home for you, it is worth the chance

confusedgirl12345 wrote: »

So I was out one night two weeks ago and for the first time ever I went home with a guy I met that night.

Since then I have met him a few times. He seems like a really nice guy, and I am starting to really like him. I can honestly say even more so than when I first met my previous other halves!

However, he's heading abroad for work for god knows how long, but at least a year. I'm thinking I should just leave it now, I have the text written out to end it but I can't send it!:( Usually I would just see where it goes but I know I have really strong feelings for him already, and ending it now will prevent me from getting hurt?

I can't tell what way he's thinking, and it's too early to have a chat about where we are going...but he obviously know he is going too and yet he's giving it a go. (There hasn't been any thing more than a kiss since)

I just don't know....:( Any advice appreciated.

judgefudge

I met my ex in December of 2007 and he told me he was going travelling in October of 2008, for definite. I continued to see him because I really liked him and lo and behold in October he never went anywhere. It took him until we broke up to decide to go abroad finally.

Now I'm not saying this will happen in your situation but you really never know, so if you like him you may as well keep seeing him. Like someone said either way you'll feel hurt, may as well have a little fun first.

bellylint

Hiya op,
I went out with a girl that I was crazy about, but who I knew was going to be leaving. I stuck with it, and I had one of the best relationships I have had. We both were not interested in the long distance thing (our choice), but when she left it was relatively pain free. Sure I missed her, but it didnt have the sting of a break up where one party does not want it. She is now a good friend.
In short I am very thankful that I got to meet a good person and am deeply appreciative of the time that we did have together.

hope that helps
good luck