Going Down

LegacyUser

Hi,

First of all I want to say I'm very embarrassed and feel kinda wierd posting this but I think an anonymous objective view could be helpful.

I'm with a girl since January, we're in our early 20's, everything is amazing and we are both very much in love. I'm a very lucky guy to be with her

our sex life is as equally amazing, although, the few times I am about to go down on her, she quickly moves to me and begins kissing me. I take the hint, and we do other stuff.

The only one time I've actually been down on her, was when she asked me to do it. she seemed to really really really enjoy it. we spoke about it after that moment. she asked me if I enjoyed it and I said of course and I asked her and she said yes.

I thought we reached a new level in our sex life, but I've tried it the odd time since and the same stuff happens, she doesn't allow me. I don't try to attempt it a lot as I don't want to pressure her at all.

I don't know if I was bad at it, or if she genuinely didn't like it. but I'm kinda confused now.

I feel SO incredibly guilty.
she gives me oral a lot and I have NEVER asked for it. I just want to make her equally as happy, and do the same for her. doing these things without her asking.

I know at the end of the day, the only thing i can do is to gently talk to her about it. But I would very much appriecate and value some advice from people who have had experience with this in the past before I bring it up.

Many thanks in advance

Beruthiel

You could just talk to her about it.

SunnyDub1

tbh Op, maybe she just doesn't like and doesn't want to hurt your feelings. It's not that your not good at it, different people enjoy different things.

You said yourself yous have a good sex life and are happily in love so don't be stressing over it

SheFiend

It could be the case that she may be embarrassed about her discharge.

Try going down on her when she has just showered and see if she still stops you.

LegacyUser

don't want to use my real username but I think I have a similar "problem". I love getting oral off a guy but I do worry I am not clean enough, he doesn't really like it etc. so def try what was suggested up above - straight after she showers. Tell her how much you like going down on her, the taste etc as that's what worries me. I have on ex who would constantly reassure me how much he enjoyed it, it turned him on liked teh taste etc and I found it so much easier to allow myself to enjoy it because of his comments

coco_lola

OP don't worry about this, I know a lot of girls who are not into it, not because they don't enjoy it, but because they are worried about how they smell/taste. Girls who worry about this can often tense up and then they may not enjoy it as a result. I would talk to her, and if this is the case then simply reassure her that you enjoy it too. It may be that she is too embarrassed to talk about it.

chocolatrose

I'd say her self-consciousness gets the better of her at times most definitely. You seem to be very sensitive to her anyway so I think it will work out fine for ye. The best thing to do is to make her feel comfortable, like others have said is just make sure you drop hints about how it really turns you on and enjoy it and I'd say she will eventually be able to relax.

LegacyUser

Thanks guys,

I'll take all this advice on board!

Again many thanks, I very much appreciate this