should I contact her?

LegacyUser

This is a little complicated but ill try to explain..

There was this friend of mine who was goin through a very bad break up and I was there for her (brought her out and was just a shoulder to cry on) anyway she began to have feeling for me and we eventually had sex and I lost my virginity to her.. We were goin out but on the quiet for a little while.

Anyway, her ex was givin her grief callin her names and saying that I only wanted sex off her and all that, he even got another women to call her and giver her all kinds of abuse. I tried to contact him but he changed his number so I got his mothers phone number and told her the story.

I was only trying to get my own back i suppose and regret it now. Anyway my gf isnt very happy and has cut me off. Hasnt texted me in weeks and defriend me on facebook. I know I meant a lot to her because we have been close friends for years. I really miss talking to her and all that

should I contact her and apologize or even let her know why i did it?

should I contact her or just leave

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You contacted the guy's mother?

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I don't even know what to say to that. That's just childish.

Taltos

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msg11

OP, leave this as it is. Contacting her now will just make you worse as she might not get back in touch with you. There are bigger and better things out there, don't get hooked up on this.

Also contacting his mother, if the OP felt it serious enough to do so, I don't see a problem. Maybe his mother could talk to him and make him see sense before he ends up with a charge from the local Garda station for harassment.

Big Bag of Chips

I'm guessing you're all quite young? Leave things be for the minute. Acknowledge that "telling on him" probably made the situation worse for her.. she probably got even more abusive messages from him asking why she got her boyfriend to tell his mother etc.

You did wrong. I know you did it with a good heart and for the right reasons, but she obviously didn't want you getting involved to the extent you did.

If she wanted you to contact him on her behalf she would have given you his number. If you thought she would be happy with you contacting him, you would have just asked her for his number. But you didn't.

Difficult as it is for you, don't contact her now. You've done so. She knows you're sorry. It's up to her to get back to you if she wants. She knows where to find you.

LegacyUser

we are all 18/19 years of age. I have been thinking of texting her for the last few weeks but I just don't wanna seem desperate.. see we broke up cause things were ''to difficult'' and we actually remained friends months after but then this happened and since then I havnt spoke to her.. We were always very close. She was just such a good friend to have...