Seeing this girl for a month

LegacyUser

hi all,

Yip another one of those "Im lost and dont know what to do Posts".

Long story short met a girl about five weeks ago. Really hit it off.
Have a fair bit in common, shes gorgeous and exactly the sort of girl I generally go for.
Outgoing, funny, friendly, and easy to chat to.

We have met up a good few times in the few weeks, maybe 7 or 8 times so far. Which is a positive and we text a bit too ( although she is more useless than an ice pick in the desert at replying every now and then haha). She is very affectionate, lot of kissing and holds on to me when ever she gets the chance. Which is great.

So anyways what brings me to boards (long time lurker, first time poster) is how soon is too soon to ask her out exclusively. As in I would like a decent relationship with her at some stage, but as everyone knows it takes two to tango.

The real question is how do I bring it up and kinda say it with out sounding needy.
I want to figure out where I stand with this girl at the moment. Are we just casually dating and allowing ourselves to see other people, are we just seeing each other or will we make it that its just seeing each other but not exclusive. Or is it time to up the anty and see if we work as a couple??

Sorry if that sounds a bit confusing. Hopefully it will be someway comprehendable to people.

Thanks Boardsies.

LegacyUser

Oh and we are both 24.

rhapsodyinblu

Why don't you put a feeler out? You could say something along the lines of I really like you, you're great fun to hang out with and we really get along. I was just wondering where you see this going? Theres no pressure of course to get involved in anything you don't want to but I'd love to take this relationship further blah blah blah. You gotta risk it for the biscuit!

dellas1979

rhapsodyinblu wrote: »

You gotta risk it for the biscuit!

Hahaha never a truer word said. Take the risk OP! "I like you (insert other nice words), wanna be exclusive?"

rhapsodyinblu

Go for it! If shes not interested she'll let you know and thats fine, you can move on and find someone else out there! I wish guys would take more initiative and just speak up on things like this! I'd to basically pull it out of my boyfriends mouth!

Blisterman

Just ask "Do you want to be my girlfriend?"

If she says yes, happy days.
If no, she'll probably give a reason, and you'll know where you stand.

You've gone out 8 times, so I think it's a reasonable thing to ask, and not needy.

BraziliaNZ

Don't do it! Play it cool, leave it to her to say you are exclusive etc. Then you know you're not putting her under any pressure - women hate that.

Piliger

Hi OP. I'm a good bit older (male) and I am sure someone will come and tell me I'm an old fart for saying this ...

But even though times have changed, surely ....

"We have met up a good few times in the few weeks, maybe 7 or 8 times so far. Which is a positive and we text a bit too ( although she is more useless than an ice pick in the desert at replying every now and then haha). She is very affectionate, lot of kissing and holds on to me when ever she gets the chance. Which is great. "

... this qualified as going steady and exclusivity is assumed ? After this amount of times does it really need to be said ?

I stand ready to be corrected ....

_dublinlad_

Piliger wrote: »

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... this qualified as going steady and exclusivity is assumed ? After this amount of times does it really need to be said ?

I stand ready to be corrected ....

I will have to correct you on this one. It may seem obvious but it definately does need to be said. Untill the words bf and gf are uttered to each other your not really anything. Next time you give her a nice big kiss, take a second to look into each others eyes after and simply say the words "do you want to be my gf". Simple.