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How to stop a vicious cycle

  • 24-05-2012 10:51am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey there,

    Not sure if anyone can offer opinions on this but I have an issue that keeps recurring.

    When asked to do something at work or at home & if I don't do it I have a tendancy to say when asked that yes it has been done, in the anticipation that I will do it, however I end up not doing it and keep putting it off and lying by saying it's done. I don't know why I do this it's like a fear of being found out but keeping putting it off just makes it worse.

    It's happened in the last few jobs I've had and it leads to huge stress levels, sleepless nights, anxiety but I still don't do what needs to be done. When I changed jobs last I said that's it its never going to happen again but unfortunately it has and has snowballed. I end up telling countless lies to cover up for it but just can't bring myself to do the task.

    Any opinions, ideas or advice would be great.
    Thanks


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  • #2
    Oryx
    Subscribers Posts: 19,425 ✭✭✭✭Oryx


    An obvious question, but what prevents you doing the task? Is it something you are qualified to do?

    If something is large, and difficult, it can seem daunting, but you simply begin, somehow. Dont worry about finishing, just start. Break it into manageable chunks (write a list if necessary) and tick them off as you get them done. A series of smaller tasks might be easier to cope with than one large thing.

    And again, an obvious comment: stop lying. Tell the truth and take the consequences. There is no easy way to break that habit, you just have to find the willpower to do it.


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