Barring Order, etc & section 20

LegacyUser

My wife and I seperated this year and recently she has brought a summons for a barring order, etc against me saying that I broke into her house, which is untrue

I was able to get it adjourned on health reasons, she also brought an application for custody of the kids, I've not seen the kids in over 2 months, the solicitors have suggested a section 20 and let a judge decide on that report

I've been thinking and I've had enough, I've decided to take the barring order, protection order & safety order as I don't want to go to court and I'm not going to cooperate with social services on the section 20, I've contacted both solicitors and told them I do not want custody, access or visitation and to cancel the section 20

I'm just had enough of the whole situation and I'm past the point of caring

Ickle Magoo

Hey there,

If you were past the point of caring I suspect you wouldn't have been driven to post here. What you do sound is utterly fed up and frustrated.

Are you sure that's what you want OP? If I were you I'd get back in touch with your solicitor and I'd also get in contact with a support group or even get yourself some counselling so you aren't dealing with this alone (some useful contacts HERE).

Do you have friends or family you can lean on while you go through this process?

LegacyUser

All the solicitors care about is making money, I've contacted both solicitors and told them I don't want any custody, acess or visitation

I'm admitting to the barring order, etc as I dont want to go to court

I've had enough I'm leaving the town I live in I'm going to let the bank reprocess the house I'm even considering leaving my job

Ickle Magoo

Okay, well, if you have your mind made up - why are you posting on an advice forum?

It all sounds rather dramatic - I think you need to calm down and speak to someone about your options. I mean this is the kindest possible way but ranting about what solicitors are or what you are going to do is not going to help your situation any.

I appreciate you are angry and frustrated - is there anything we can do to help? Anything you do require advice on?

smash

I think you need to consider your children and seek out counselling. Sounds like there's a lot more to this.

snor

This is not really about you or the cost of solicitors etc.

Again, I don't know the details of your particular case but barring orders are very difficult to get and unless the children are in danger you will get access.

You have children. For the sake of your children, you need to pull yourself together and put up a fight. In their best interests they need to have contact with their father. This decision will effect their lives not just now but in the future.

Taltos

OP not sure if you've reviewed the links.
But if no-one there seems appropriate maybe consider speaking to your GP, I'd even go so far as to suggest printing out this thread and taking it with you.

Just sounds like you are not in a good place, and if so you really shouldn't be making any rash decisions that will haunt you for years to come.

bobsduncle

hi Headallmessedup, hve just come across your post and as i might soon be facing into a similar situation i would love to hear how u got on? are u still able to see your kids etc?