Finding your mate ...

LolaC

I am a Christian girl and im wondering where people have meet their mate ? I would like to meet a Christian man who is future minded but i dont know in Ireland where to find them ?

Any advise ?

HamletOrHecuba

what exactly do you mean by future minded?

LolaC

HamletOrHecuba wrote: »

what exactly do you mean by future minded?

Sorry , i meant someone not just out for a one night stand .

Onesimus

If you have a look online you will see that there is a place called catholicmatch.com

Retreats are also a great place to socialize with like minded Catholics.

Doc Farrell

The easiest way to find a partner is by not trying too hard. Let me explain.
Despite what some might say here, although life is difficult and sometimes brutal it is also very very beautiful. In order to enjoy that beauty you should clear out the clutter of any low self esteem or guilt about past relationships or fear of the past or future.
Simply put in order to enjoy your life you should dive straight into your interests, your abilities, talents and desires. We will make many mistakes but so long as you follow your conscience you will be fine.
Life, like religion, is there to be enjoyed, not endured, to be experienced, not watched from the sidelines.
So how does this find you a partner. In a few ways.
1. You don't want someone who doesnt want to share your interests or dismisses them as childish or petty. For example, say you join a gospel choir and find yourself invited to sing around the country, you don't want someone who tries to talk you out of this.
2. In order for you to enjoy your life you need to know what you really enjoy doing and what kind of people you like to associate with. Meeting a stranger and following what they like to do passively will not bring you lasting happiness.
3. All relationships have troubles, but if you involved in plenty of things you will get to meet plenty of different people and build up your various social and leadership skills.

So, most importantly, join plenty of positive minded people in various groups.

Do not take on too many responsibilities within those groups immediately.
Do not become someone else's lackey just to be a part of a group.

If you are interested in someone, take your time. Most men, like women, can pick up on vibes fairly easily. If they are not interested or not man enough to move things forward then you are better off without them.

Most people have low self esteem especially in Ireland and especially if they are socially isolated. There are plenty of self help books on self esteem but more importantly there are lots of groups who look for people advertised in the local libraries, churches, supermarkets, citizen advice bureaus, positive places like that.
Remember to have some FUN, enjoy your Own interests, don't allow yourself to be bullied or intimidated in ANY situation.

If you take this advice and ENJOY yourself your problem won't be meeting people but getting them to give you your own space.

If you want a list of books that might help you increase your confidence and help you understand what you really enjoy pm me and I'll root some out.

I could give you bible quotes about how lovely life is and will if you want them but basically just ask yourself why did Jesus really go to the wedding feast or enjoy eating with so many people, because he disliked them and life?

Make a list of things you would like to try. Men will follow like poodles.

Brer Fox

I'm free lol. Just forward me a picture for consideration. :pac:

martinedwards

stop looking!!

guys avoid desperate girls!!!

chill, get out & mingle, go to festivals and things like New Wine in Sligo or Summer Madness in Belfast or any (all) of the other Christian events.

have fun, be happy and you'll draw guys like a jam sandwich draws wasps!