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Over analysing

  • 23-05-2012 2:34pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hi all,

    I'm a female in my early twenties and have been with my boyfriend for just over one year. The thing is, we've come to the stage where we've started talking about where this is going.

    My boyfriend, who never had a proper relationship before me, says he can see himself with me for the rest of his life and I think is pretty much ready to settle down.

    I met my boyfriend two months after I had come out of a very messy and unpleasent break up with a long term boyfriend of 3.5 years. At the time I was really confused and I thought it would fizzle out after a month or so but I ended up really falling for him and love him to bits now.

    The problem is I'm completely freaking out! We're both still only 23, I'm still in education and have no idea what I want to do/where I'm going to end up. The last thing I want to think about is settling down!

    We have sat down and had a chat about it, and my bf thinks I'm doing my usual of over analysing everything and that I need to relax and let what's going to happen happen. We've talked about the possibility of taking a break from each other further down the line so we can both concentrate on things we want to do. I just feel like the worst person ever for not wanting what he wants yet, I don't know what I want to do next week not to mind in 10 years! Part of me is also thinking, I am his first love, and we are only a year in, so who knows what could happen!

    Am I just going a little crazy and analysing everything here?! :p


Comments

  • #2
    Herrick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 903 ✭✭✭Herrick


    Well just because he says he can himself with you the rest of his life doesn't mean he's gonna propose anytime soon?

    I'd say just take it easy and enjoy things.


  • #3
    _dublinlad_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 243 ✭✭_dublinlad_


    To answer your question straight out - yes, to an extent.

    You guys have found each other, you are in love and talking about the future, this is a great thing. This you need to remember. I was pretty much in your spot a couple of years back, over analysing things will do you no favors what so ever. A line from a song springs to mind when I read your thread... it goes something like "don't worry about the future, your choices are half chance, so are everybody else's". What that line is saying is that whatever choice you make or path you go down you are only half guessing what it will bring - so stop worrying about it.

    What im trying to say is - look at the positives here, you have a great guy and you guys are in love and talking about the future. Take ever day as it comes, because if you keep thinking about the future - you will miss out on whats great about today.


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