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In Love with someone who doesn't love me back

  • 20-05-2012 6:28pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I'm in a bit of a situation.
    I finished college finals last week, me and my OH decided to make the decision to cool off out relationship during this time as I needed to focus all my time and effort on study. This suited me grand, he was still there for me every step of the way helping me study and keeping me sane during stressful times.

    Here's the thing, I expected that we would just get back together after the exams and continue the way we have before this. We have been seeing each other for around 6 months.
    I told him that I was falling for him, he told me that he had feelings for me too ... it hurt me on so many levels. He basically told me that he doesn't want a relationship because I'm not settled (I Havn't gotten a job yet nor have I secured any interviews yet I'm trying my hardest) and he doesn't know if he can keep his job. He lives across the country and told me he can't do long distance.

    needless to say I'm heartbroken, feels like he ripped out my heart and jumped on it. I don't know what to do now, I want to be with him and I want to be around him.
    He maintains that he has strong feelings for me, maybe he is just scared because we both don't know where we are going.

    maybe he just doesn't feel the same way.
    Has anyone had any similar experiences? I'm in absolute bits over this, any ways to cope with being in love with someone who doesn't feel the same?


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  • #2
    leeroybrown
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,563 ✭✭✭leeroybrown


    HeartBrokenGirl wrote: »
    Has anyone had any similar experiences? I'm in absolute bits over this, any ways to cope with being in love with someone who doesn't feel the same?
    Quite a few relationships come to an end like this at the end of college. If the relationship's definitely over for him then the best course of action in my opinion is to cut all contact with him. No calls, no texts, no Facebook, no Twitter, etc. People try "just being friends" but I don't think that really works most of the time and it just ends up taking twice as long to get over them. Clinging onto the maybes will drag it out for years.


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