Is she interested or not....

LegacyUser

So the story goes, I've been seeing this girl the last few months or so and initially everything was great. We were chatting on the phone and meeting up pretty regularly, though at times that was hard as we live couple of hours apart. However recently I've noticed a shift in her interest or what I perceive to be her interest. Its been a significant period of time since we met up and also her communication has been a lot less frequent. To put in context, if I ring her or text her, it can take a couple of days for her to reply. On a couple of occasions she has actually not returned my call or text at all. At the start this was not the case at all, as her replies were pretty prompt in comparison. I have also suggested numerous meets over the interim time only to rebutted by a variety of reasons ranging from working late, other plans etc

As you can imagine I was taking all of the above as a pretty clear signal of her non interest, but still it kinda bugged me that she had said nothing definite to be completely transparent. At the end of the day I would deem ourselves as very mature adults (I'm early 30's and she's in her late 30's) so I was a little taken aback by this sudden shift of behaviour as it would be not the way I would carry on if I had no specific interest in someone. I would prefer to be straight with someone.

So after analyzing all of the above, I asked her straight out in a text last night if she was interested in me and would she like to see me again. To add I would have preferred to call her but I was thinking she wouldn't have answered it as her recent form would suggest. She replied pretty much straight away (first time in a long time she has done so) saying she was interested in me and apologised that we hadn't met in a while as she was up to her neck in work and also that she was feeling somewhat antisocial of late. I must also add that this shift of behaviour coincided to a time when she had an sporting accident where she done some ligaments in her legs and as a consequence has been on crutches since. As one would expect her mobility is limited as a result and she contributes this to her somewhat feeling anti social of late. She says it takes her ages to do even the basic of things with crutches and this makes her frustrated and grumpy.

While I do understand her current situation, I still can't help but feel I am in someway been fogged off. In particular with her communication. I'm not overly bearing and don't bombard her with texts or calls. I'm around long enough to know the balance. But I know if I was interested in someone I would generally try and reply to someone as promptly as I can. And I know there are situations where that might be a few hours for a variety of reasons, but I can't see why it would take days or in some cases no reply at all.

What do you think? Am I being unreasonable or over analytical of it all? Should I just forget it and move on? Its just now she has fed me a bone to feed on, by sending that reply last night saying she was interested in me. Its sort of confused me now, as I was fairly sure of her intentions before that and I was prepared to move on

_dublinlad_

It takes no effort to send a text message or make a call. I would guess if she was up to her eyes in work and was finding it hard with the crutches - the most obvious pick me up for her would be to give you a call/text and have a chat and maybe explain herself to you. Try to imagine yourself in her shoes.... you would call right? Of course everybody is different, but I think its a helfull excercise none the less..

At the end of the day nobody knows for sure what shes thinking but her. But I think on the balance of probabilies - shes just not feeling it.