ok confused and just want to understand what hes thinking??

wolfgirl88

ok so i was out the other night and ended up bumping into my ex from 3 years ago (who i went out with for 4 months and broke up with him to get back with my ex at the time which was a stupid move and i never should of done it but i at the time i was a stupid stupid girl and didnt realise what i had untill i lost it) but anyway he basically saved me from some drunken asshole who tried to drag me across the street anyway he brought me home in a taxi( we where both a bit drunk) and made me tea and made sure i was alright before ringing a cab home for himself but in the meantime while we where waiting on the taxi we got talking and he leaned in to kiss me gently twice on the lips and he was asking me if what we had when we where going out was special as he thought it was and told me to text him anytime and to talk to him from time to time so he went home anyway and the next day i just text him saying thanks for getting me home and looking after me and his messages have been hot and cold but yet he wants to meet up for a catchup soon so i dont know what to make of it all really. why did he kiss me? does it mean anything? was he just being kind and getting me home safely or does he still have feelings for me but is too scared because of what i did to him before? or was it just the drink talking?? i dont know what to do because ive wanted to get back with him for a very long time but i always thought he hated me for what i did and i kept saying to myself to let him go cas i hurt him so i dunno do i leave it alone or do i pursue this? This guy is amazing and i never should of let him go in the first place any advice is greatly appreciated here thanks and sorry for the bad spelling!

floorpie

You'll never know what he's thinking until you meet up and feel things out, right? Personally, i could never get back into a relationship with someone who broke up with me to get back with their ex, so maybe that's why he's blowing hot and cold: he liked you, but you hurt him, so he's conflicted about the situation.

The only thing i'd say is, if he was so so amazing, i don't know why you'd have broken up with him, ex on the scene or not. So you'd want to be sure that you haven't put him on a pedestal in the last 3 years, only to realise again that you're not suited to each other once you're in a relationship.

All you can do is see how it goes, though...

Beruthiel

wolfgirl88 wrote: »

This guy is amazing and i never should of let him go in the first place

Maybe he needs to hear that.
He's probably blowing hot and cold because he cannot be sure about you. You've left him before, he's protecting himself from getting hurt/getting his hopes up.
If you really want to get back with him, act like you mean it and ring him up and ask him out.
Forget the silly texting, context will be missed.

Be sure you mean to follow threw though.
Hurting him twice would be unforgivable.

Pa Dee

wolfgirl88 wrote: »

ok so i was out the other night and ended up bumping into my ex from 3 years ago (who i went out with for 4 months and broke up with him to get back with my ex at the time which was a stupid move and i never should of done it but i at the time i was a stupid stupid girl and didnt realise what i had untill i lost it) but anyway he basically saved me from some drunken asshole who tried to drag me across the street anyway he brought me home in a taxi( we where both a bit drunk) and made me tea and made sure i was alright before ringing a cab home for himself but in the meantime while we where waiting on the taxi we got talking and he leaned in to kiss me gently twice on the lips and he was asking me if what we had when we where going out was special as he thought it was and told me to text him anytime and to talk to him from time to time so he went home anyway and the next day i just text him saying thanks for getting me home and looking after me and his messages have been hot and cold but yet he wants to meet up for a catchup soon so i dont know what to make of it all really. why did he kiss me? does it mean anything? was he just being kind and getting me home safely or does he still have feelings for me but is too scared because of what i did to him before? or was it just the drink talking?? i dont know what to do because ive wanted to get back with him for a very long time but i always thought he hated me for what i did and i kept saying to myself to let him go cas i hurt him so i dunno do i leave it alone or do i pursue this? This guy is amazing and i never should of let him go in the first place any advice is greatly appreciated here thanks and sorry for the bad spelling!

Simply ask him....

hondasam

wolfgirl88 wrote: »

ok so i was out the other night and ended up bumping into my ex from 3 years ago (who i went out with for 4 months and broke up with him to get back with my ex at the time which was a stupid move and i never should of done it but i at the time i was a stupid stupid girl and didnt realise what i had untill i lost it) but anyway he basically saved me from some drunken asshole who tried to drag me across the street anyway he brought me home in a taxi( we where both a bit drunk) and made me tea and made sure i was alright before ringing a cab home for himself but in the meantime while we where waiting on the taxi we got talking and he leaned in to kiss me gently twice on the lips and he was asking me if what we had when we where going out was special as he thought it was and told me to text him anytime and to talk to him from time to time so he went home anyway and the next day i just text him saying thanks for getting me home and looking after me and his messages have been hot and cold but yet he wants to meet up for a catchup soon so i dont know what to make of it all really. why did he kiss me? does it mean anything? was he just being kind and getting me home safely or does he still have feelings for me but is too scared because of what i did to him before? or was it just the drink talking?? i dont know what to do because ive wanted to get back with him for a very long time but i always thought he hated me for what i did and i kept saying to myself to let him go cas i hurt him so i dunno do i leave it alone or do i pursue this? This guy is amazing and i never should of let him go in the first place any advice is greatly appreciated here thanks and sorry for the bad spelling!

You went out with him for four months three years ago, I think you are making lots of assumptions about him now tbh.
He might be blowing hot and cold because he does not want you to get the wrong impression, your post gives the impression he has been waiting around for you all these years.
Meet him for a coffee and have a chat.

Piliger

hondasam wrote: »

Meet him for a coffee and have a chat.

Do it.