Some advice ...

LegacyUser

So basically I'm 26 moved to Dublin six months ago ...

I keep crying like right now im so upset I just don't want to go in to work tmr, the company I work for are horrible and have a reputation of being like this..
No one speaks to anyone excepts for the cliches, I was moved in to a new department a few weeks ago and it is openly known I'm not wanted there ...


i live in quite a large house share with people nearly 10yrs older than me who are so mess y n dirty and because Im the youngest I can't say anything the landlord is non excistant at this stage..

I always go home and dread coming up I sometimes wish I could go back home and to the live I had before even though I know Im looking back with rose tinted glasses!!

I really dont want to feel so down and upset and crying but can't stop

Anyone else feel like this and overcome it, any advice?

Thanks

edellc

this is your life and you need to take control of it, start applying for other jobs and seeing what is out there, get your cv together and get it off to recruitment companies and also check out jobs.ie and the like every day and apply there, please do not say that you have to stay where you are, you do not

how long is left on your lease?? or is there anyway you can say that something has come up at home and you have to move back, you dont have to tell these people the truth, but you do need your deposit back...there is plenty of house shares out there so get looking

as for the immediate now and facing work tomorrow, all I can say is that this is something that you have to do, however remember it is just a job and its up to you if you let it define your life, these sados that are excluding you are just pathetic and you are worth more, this job is just a means to an end and if you take the right steps then you can be out of there soon whereas they will be left there being their sad pathetic selves......so chin up OP take control of your life and destiny

LegacyUser

Hi OP,

I'm sort of in a similar boat as yourself believe it or not!

I moved to Belfast about a year and a half ago for a PhD and it's been something similar.

I live with people I don't like and whom are pretty messy, annoying etc... in every conceivable way.

I work most days and it can be pretty crappy. I'm not from Belfast or NI and didn't study here so I'm more of an outsider as everyone here seems to have gone to school together (literally, primary school!). A load of the people here have their cliques and their places in these groups. It's pretty awful and I can empathise where you're coming from.

It does wear you down and you will feel like crap for a while (some days are better than others though).

My advice would be to:

1. Don't worry about your housemates, pay your bills and look after your own stuff. They're housemates, nothing more nothing less.

2. Get a hobby, something that will take up your weekends. This is mainly for the fact that if you've a hobby, you'll meet new people. If there are weekends away (matches, trips etc...) you'll get to know people better and have a bit of craic. It gets you out of your own head and out of your house. Also, it means that you've a set of friends not work related and who you can have the craic with.

3. Take up some exercise in the evening, preferably aerobic. Exercise like this helps relieve stress and it's the best thing to do in the evening after a day in the office.

I haven't gotten much further than that. I'm pretty occupied by my work so I don't take much time off, however the friends and exercise are key and you need people you can talk to when you're feeling down. I'm lucky that I have at least a handful of friends up here that I can talk to which is pretty class. Everyone else is surplus to requirements when you have a few good friends.

Don't despair just yet, it'll get better in time but you need to be one to take charge and at the end of the day just remember that if people aren't interested in getting to know you then they're probably not worth knowing. Keep that in mind.