Why do they not call?

LegacyUser

Why when you have a great date with a guy, they are talking about seeing you again during the first date, that they don't call/ text? yes I have text him and no response. the date happened last Saturday

Its so frustrating. Why do men do this?

daisybelle2008

Simply because they are not interested in taking it further. Which is perfectly reasonable. That is what dating is for isn't it?
It takes both parties to be interested to get something off the ground.

Not sure why you think this is a gender thing. I have had plenty of dates that went well enough but had no interest in seeing the guy again.

Every man you have a date with is not guarateed to want to see you again.

Don't take it personally and start generalising negatively about men. He did you a favour not staying in contact if he is not into you.

_dublinlad_

There is one line that will save you hours of over thinking about the opposite sex (Notice I didnt say just men, women do it an equal amount)

They are just not that in to you.

He may have talked about seeing you again because the conversation was running dry, or he wanted to keep his options open and see how he feels about you after you guys parted ways. For whatever reason he said it, he evidently didnt mean it - no point wasting another second in thinking about it.

BarackPyjama

Men and women both do this. The reason generally being, as the above poster says, that he/she just isn't you.

I don't think there's protocol for this kind of thing. Breaking off contact is probably the easiest thing to do and sends a fairly clear message. What's the alternative? Calling the person and saying "I'm just not that interested in pursuing this" or meeting up with the person to let them know that you don't wish to see them anymore? This is the way it goes - if a guy stops texting you, he's just decided that he doesn't want to pursue things. Dust yourself off and find someone else.

ButterflyABC

Everyone does this, both men and women.

Was it just one date? Is it someone you'll see again through friends? Sounds like he's just not interested for whatever reason.

LegacyUser

No he's not a friend of a friend.

I'm normally quite good about judging dates etc... maybe he was just looking for the one thing and when he didn't get it it was him done

LegacyUser

username_1_2_3 wrote: »

No he's not a friend of a friend.

I'm normally quite good about judging dates etc... maybe he was just looking for the one thing and when he didn't get it it was him done

more sweeping generalisations....I don't see the point in presuming he was just after sex, while it may be easier to believe that than accepting he rejected you because he just wasn't interested, ultimately in the long run that kind of attitude will just leave you bitter and put future potential partners off.

He just wasn't interested in pursuing anything further, don't take it personally it happens everyone at some point.

All the best OP.

IrishEyes19

username_1_2_3 wrote: »

No he's not a friend of a friend.

I'm normally quite good about judging dates etc... maybe he was just looking for the one thing and when he didn't get it it was him done

Or maybe he just wasnt into you. doesnt mean he just wanted one thing.

Piliger

Women also have a long history of doing this. And of giving a false phone number too ....

Ickle Magoo

Okay OP - it's clear it isn't just men who do this...and equally clear we cannot tell you why somebody behaves a particular way so you will just get a list of perhaps and maybes.

As the responses cover many of those already and this isn't an issue within your relationship that you require advice on, I'm locking the thread.

All the very best. :cool: