'Dating' Websites

Johnny Derpp

Hey all, long time lurker etc...

To put a long story short, I'm a few months out of a long and serious relationship and would like to get back out in the world if you know what I mean, for some no strings attached fun.
Problem is, I hate nightclubs and this seems to be where everyone meets like minded people for these things. A friends suggested a particular 'dating' website 'cos it advertises being 'straight to the point'.

I'm not old fashioned and wouldn't believe that 'weirdos' are reserved for the internet dating sites, but I can't find any credible feedback from anyone that has used the sites.
Does anyone here use them?
How do they find them?

The Big Red Button

You should check out the Online Dating thread in the Gentlemens Club forum - LOADS of really helpful info there.

I've used OK Cupid in the past, got chatting to loads of lovely guys through it, and met up with a couple of them - all very nice and normal. Would definitely recommend that you give it a go!

stargazer 68

Op I agree with chatterpillar -check out the gentlemans club thread. Lots of stories and advice on there. Highly amusing too - some of them. You really have nothing to lose by trying a dating site - I would suggest a free one first though rather than the pay ones. You can find all the names etc on the thread

LegacyUser

Dovies wrote: »

Op I agree with chatterpillar -check out the gentlemans club thread. Lots of stories and advice on there. Highly amusing too - some of them. You really have nothing to lose by trying a dating site - I would suggest a free one first though rather than the pay ones. You can find all the names etc on the thread

That's not strictly true; you can only use dating sites properly if you pay a membership and you can lose a lot of money if you allow yourself be suckered in (like I was). They are a waste of money IMO, a total con job, full of fake profiles of women who don't even exist.
You would be better off joining a social club or group where you can meet members of the opposite sex face-to-face.

indough

you dont have to pay for them at all. what seems to be the most popular one in use at the moment is perfectly adequate and there are lots of people with success stories from it (i wont name it but its not exactly obscure information). obviously it has the same drawbacks as any other dating site but you have nothing to lose by using it if you are responsible and use your noodle. the idea that paid sites are any better is pretty much just a myth

regress

William_00 wrote: »

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You would be better off joining a social club or group where you can meet members of the opposite sex face-to-face.

A lot of merit in that. A lot of emotional capital can be used online when there is no gaurantee that there will be any chemistry or connection when you meet in person. Having used dating websites in past I would not recommend them. Instead join something where you will meet women face to face.

blatantrereg

regress wrote: »

A lot of merit in that. A lot of emotional capital can be used online when there is no gaurantee that there will be any chemistry or connection when you meet in person. Having used dating websites in past I would not recommend them. Instead join something where you will meet women face to face.

A good point there. I think you need to keep that in mind with how you approach them, but I wouldn't dismiss them completely because of it. I've met a few people from sites before. It's a good idea to meet in person sooner rather than later if you are interested in someone, because you won't really know how you'll connect until you do. Also be aware of the illusion of anonymity in online communication: People can be less guarded with what they say when they are just typing it into a computer than they would be in person. Another reason to just meet in person for a cup of coffee or something, rather than chatting loads first.

KKkitty

Dating websites are all well and good but you really can't beat meeting face to face. You can't see facial expressions over a dating website and while you're chatting online there's no real intimacy either. I'd follow previous advice and get involved in a group and meet like minded people that way.

stargazer 68

William_00 wrote: »

That's not strictly true; you can only use dating sites properly if you pay a membership and you can lose a lot of money if you allow yourself be suckered in (like I was). They are a waste of money IMO, a total con job, full of fake profiles of women who don't even exist.
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Which is why I said use the FREE sites- of which there are plenty!

Ickle Magoo

As online dating site feedback isn't a PI, I'm locking this thread.

There's a great thread already dedicated to this topic HERE.

All the best. :cool: